The affair is not the end of the story (Recap)
(SITE KEEPS CRASHING, I apologize and thank you for your patience)
Let's see, where did we leave off?
Yes, the affair does not have to be the end of the story.
It might be the end, but it does not have to be. Sometimes, after an affair, it transforms the relationship, the person; it served as a wakeup call. Create, from scratch, the type of relationship you want to be part of. Be aware and conscious of what you are creating and why.
Inventory
Ask yourself what you truly want in a relationship and work for it.
What is in your control?
Grow
Intentionally redefine the past and be selective in the battles you choose.
Be mindful and don’t give energy and time to areas in your life that do not need your attention.
Find things that will lead to growth and potential and set your soul on fire.
Pay attention to what happens with your empathy, compassion, loving-kindness, and humility. Your appreciation and gratitude for things has the potential to be magnified if you can see your experiences as guideposts not hitching posts.
You faced your fears and have gone into some of the darkest parts of your life.
You have acquired strength and value more than you realize. You have likely done an inventory already.
Acknowledge your strengths, weaknesses and barriers- be persistent with practice.
I have recorded a slew of issues that might be helpful for couples and Archive.org is where they are hosted (free). If you prefer audio, you might start there. Check out the one below.
Be ready for challenging conversations
https://archive.org/details/prepare-for-the-negative-and-the-argument-so-that-you-are-ready-emotionally-cont
Did you know that people freely give attention to those who nurture and support them? I challenge you to nurture and support those around you in ways that are meaningful to them.
I would ask my clients to please let me know if you use my blog to continue the growth between sessions. It can be another resource for you.
Thank you for joining me today and I look forward to spending more time together in the future.
Thank you for subscribing,
Don Boice, LCSWR
“The go- to guy for conflict”
(SITE KEEPS CRASHING, I apologize and thank you for your patience)
Let's see, where did we leave off?
Yes, the affair does not have to be the end of the story.
It might be the end, but it does not have to be. Sometimes, after an affair, it transforms the relationship, the person; it served as a wakeup call. Create, from scratch, the type of relationship you want to be part of. Be aware and conscious of what you are creating and why.
Inventory
Ask yourself what you truly want in a relationship and work for it.
What is in your control?
Grow
Intentionally redefine the past and be selective in the battles you choose.
Be mindful and don’t give energy and time to areas in your life that do not need your attention.
Find things that will lead to growth and potential and set your soul on fire.
Pay attention to what happens with your empathy, compassion, loving-kindness, and humility. Your appreciation and gratitude for things has the potential to be magnified if you can see your experiences as guideposts not hitching posts.
You faced your fears and have gone into some of the darkest parts of your life.
You have acquired strength and value more than you realize. You have likely done an inventory already.
Acknowledge your strengths, weaknesses and barriers- be persistent with practice.
I have recorded a slew of issues that might be helpful for couples and Archive.org is where they are hosted (free). If you prefer audio, you might start there. Check out the one below.
Be ready for challenging conversations
https://archive.org/details/prepare-for-the-negative-and-the-argument-so-that-you-are-ready-emotionally-cont
Did you know that people freely give attention to those who nurture and support them? I challenge you to nurture and support those around you in ways that are meaningful to them.
I would ask my clients to please let me know if you use my blog to continue the growth between sessions. It can be another resource for you.
Thank you for joining me today and I look forward to spending more time together in the future.
Thank you for subscribing,
Don Boice, LCSWR
“The go- to guy for conflict”
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