You have to go through the darkness to get to the light at the end? Sometimes it’s easy; sometimes it hurts like hell.
Maybe your unconscious goal is to conform to the expected ideal. To have desire come spontaneously, to have orgasms during intercourse. And for it to feel normal.
No two people are alike. We are all made of the same parts as everyone else, organized in a unique way.
We want to feel normal or more deeply we’re all just trying to belong somewhere.
“If I am normal then I belong. “
The trap is that we look at a map and think that the map is correct. The map is about the terrain. It is not the terrain itself.
Some people who told you about the map or showed you a map -they were wrong or they lied to you.