Conflict order
These are intentionally out of order. Why? Couples often do them out of order. Want a challenge? Put them in the order in which they should logically occur.
Learn when to use the debate format versus listen
Learn when to use negotiation versus listening/talking system
Learn when to use the system of compromise
End the relationship because “nothing works “
Read “need versus complaint” article (www.boicecounseling.com)
Have a conversation about the conflict
Set up rules/understanding about how to talk with each other during conflict
Read “how to not hit below the belt” (Don’s website www.boicecounseling.com)
Read “calling out without accusing” (Don’s Website)
Practice softened startup
Learn how to get your point across without starting a disagreement
Practice talker/listener
Learn talker/listener
Polish talker/listener
Learn how to validate
Learn how to repair mid argument
Learn how to do the aftermath of an incident
Learn how to clarify what you heard
Read nonviolent communication (book)
Set the tone for a disagreement
Practice how to agree to disagree
Practice how and when and what to compromise
Practice negotiation skills
Learn about negotiation
Learn how to use negotiation tools
These are intentionally out of order. Why? Couples often do them out of order. Want a challenge? Put them in the order in which they should logically occur.
Learn when to use the debate format versus listen
Learn when to use negotiation versus listening/talking system
Learn when to use the system of compromise
End the relationship because “nothing works “
Read “need versus complaint” article (www.boicecounseling.com)
Have a conversation about the conflict
Set up rules/understanding about how to talk with each other during conflict
Read “how to not hit below the belt” (Don’s website www.boicecounseling.com)
Read “calling out without accusing” (Don’s Website)
Practice softened startup
Learn how to get your point across without starting a disagreement
Practice talker/listener
Learn talker/listener
Polish talker/listener
Learn how to validate
Learn how to repair mid argument
Learn how to do the aftermath of an incident
Learn how to clarify what you heard
Read nonviolent communication (book)
Set the tone for a disagreement
Practice how to agree to disagree
Practice how and when and what to compromise
Practice negotiation skills
Learn about negotiation
Learn how to use negotiation tools
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