If you’re reading this, you maybe are healing from an affair.
I am sorry that you are in pain and hurt and disoriented by this. Or maybe you have different feelings altogether. Let's help you heal, knowing that it takes awhile to get the trust back, if you do. Let's challenge some thought patterns and see what happens.
In the preliminary stages or maybe stuck at a later stage, not quite getting the inner closure you prefer. Or you hit a plateau and need to nudge yourself.
What can I expect from this blog?
In this blog, I will ask you to look at yourself deeply at times. If you can tolerate the discomfort of that, you will heal faster. And it will be uncomfortable.
If you feel stuck or are escalating your emotions, or creating anxiety for yourself, ask yourself:
Are you jumping to conclusions or blowing things out of proportion?
Are you checking your assumptions or suffering alone?
Are you acknowledging how painful it is/was or are you pretending everything is perfectly fine and getting
lost in that thinking?
Those answers may/will help you get out of being stuck. As long as there is movement and growth, you will be fine. It hurts, though, in the meantime.
Then, I challenge you to ask yourself:
How do I feel? (ask that repeatedly throughout each day)
What do I need right now? (ask repeatedly so that you train yourself to pay attention to your needs again)
Those two questions will help you with your healing journey.
Maybe add this question- What is the story I am telling myself about this?
Thank you for joining me today and I look forward to spending more time together in the future.
Thank you for subscribing,
Don Boice, LCSWR
“The go- to guy for conflict”
I am sorry that you are in pain and hurt and disoriented by this. Or maybe you have different feelings altogether. Let's help you heal, knowing that it takes awhile to get the trust back, if you do. Let's challenge some thought patterns and see what happens.
In the preliminary stages or maybe stuck at a later stage, not quite getting the inner closure you prefer. Or you hit a plateau and need to nudge yourself.
What can I expect from this blog?
In this blog, I will ask you to look at yourself deeply at times. If you can tolerate the discomfort of that, you will heal faster. And it will be uncomfortable.
If you feel stuck or are escalating your emotions, or creating anxiety for yourself, ask yourself:
Are you jumping to conclusions or blowing things out of proportion?
Are you checking your assumptions or suffering alone?
Are you acknowledging how painful it is/was or are you pretending everything is perfectly fine and getting
lost in that thinking?
Those answers may/will help you get out of being stuck. As long as there is movement and growth, you will be fine. It hurts, though, in the meantime.
Then, I challenge you to ask yourself:
How do I feel? (ask that repeatedly throughout each day)
What do I need right now? (ask repeatedly so that you train yourself to pay attention to your needs again)
Those two questions will help you with your healing journey.
Maybe add this question- What is the story I am telling myself about this?
Thank you for joining me today and I look forward to spending more time together in the future.
Thank you for subscribing,
Don Boice, LCSWR
“The go- to guy for conflict”
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