Magnificent Sex is a great book- not so much technique like the book She Comes First (great technique advice and why the technique works).
As a couple, magnificent sex is within your grasp, sex worth having requires some traits and the next few blogs will deal with that. I have found that couples tend to not discuss sex or preferences or fantasies and it is my hope that this will at least get couples talking.
"Technical skills were consistently de-emphasized in favor of other important contributors: sensitivity, attentiveness, responsiveness, communication, focus, connection.*
The major components of magnificent sex:
We have discussed the risks of emotional vulnerability, but failed to consider the risk of erotic stagnation.
We rarely consider the kinds of risks that are necessary for creating the caliber of sex worth wanting.
Magnificent sex may involve those moments of deep connection in which both lovers are psychologically and sexually accessible, engaged and responsive to whatever lies deep within.
Great sex is not what you do with your partner*, not about which body parts go, where or how often or for how long but about how you share sensation* in the context of profound, trust and connection*, recognize the difference between what great sex is really like and most of us expect great sex to be like.
It takes a strong individual to maintain and assert one’s sense of self as good enough, regardless of what others might think. Maturity is required
If one is to pursue one’s heart desires in the face of others, may look askance at such wishes.
Relationships nourish a sense of safety. That is simultaneously true.
Do we choose people who are well suited in terms of appearance, but not intellect or personality?
“The people with whom self-actualizers fall in love are soundly selected by either cognitive or behavioral criteria, intuitively, sexually attracted to people who are right for them.” (Maslow)"
Definitely worth the read and over the next few blogs, I will share excerpts.
As a couple, magnificent sex is within your grasp, sex worth having requires some traits and the next few blogs will deal with that. I have found that couples tend to not discuss sex or preferences or fantasies and it is my hope that this will at least get couples talking.
"Technical skills were consistently de-emphasized in favor of other important contributors: sensitivity, attentiveness, responsiveness, communication, focus, connection.*
The major components of magnificent sex:
- being completely present in the moment, embodied focused and absorbed.
- connection, alignment being in sync and merger
- deep, sexual and erotic intimacy
- extraordinary communication and empathy
- being genuine, authentic and transparent,
- vulnerability and surrender,
- exploration, interpersonal risk-taking and fun
- transcendence and transformation
- In order to find optimal sexual experiences, one must look within,
We have discussed the risks of emotional vulnerability, but failed to consider the risk of erotic stagnation.
We rarely consider the kinds of risks that are necessary for creating the caliber of sex worth wanting.
Magnificent sex may involve those moments of deep connection in which both lovers are psychologically and sexually accessible, engaged and responsive to whatever lies deep within.
Great sex is not what you do with your partner*, not about which body parts go, where or how often or for how long but about how you share sensation* in the context of profound, trust and connection*, recognize the difference between what great sex is really like and most of us expect great sex to be like.
It takes a strong individual to maintain and assert one’s sense of self as good enough, regardless of what others might think. Maturity is required
If one is to pursue one’s heart desires in the face of others, may look askance at such wishes.
Relationships nourish a sense of safety. That is simultaneously true.
Do we choose people who are well suited in terms of appearance, but not intellect or personality?
“The people with whom self-actualizers fall in love are soundly selected by either cognitive or behavioral criteria, intuitively, sexually attracted to people who are right for them.” (Maslow)"
Definitely worth the read and over the next few blogs, I will share excerpts.
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