New relationship
Every new relationship, not only romantic, requires you to let go of the old and create the new. Sometimes it means creating the new with your partner/friend/coworker.
Attachment theory helps us understand how profound it is for us to bring old baggage from childhood to the current relationship. We tend to do this more than we might realize. Who are you reacting or responding to right now? Are you responding to someone from your past or are you responding to the current situation? Not blaming or pathologizing that, just asking for a heightened awareness.
Even if you are not thinking about your childhood and the template for connection in the current moment, chances are you are responding to something from that, even decades later.
If you don’t release the old, it gets in the way of the new. You are not who you were an hour ago, when you exist fully in the now.
You have a new contract and new lessons to learn in this relationship. The previous agreements have expired and the path has changed. No longer relevant to who you are now…
Michael Singer in “Untethered Soul” talks about letting go of the past to be here now.
Many counselors would advise you to be in the present moment. Allow the emotional baggage of your past to be in the past. We are moving forward, not back. The past belongs in the past.
It’s time to move on.
Hanging onto the old does not serve you.
Yes, cherish the old and honor what you learned from them and from the relationship itself.
You journeyed and learned new levels - thank them for it. Update your software. Sometimes we carry the baggage from childhood and treat the person in front of us in a certain way, due to something that happened decades ago.
Moving forward, we don’t navigate by looking in the rear view mirror.
We don’t benefit by bringing baggage with us.
Let it go.
This is different and the old rules will get in the way of this one. Your old relationships are in the past and you’re moving forward to the future.
New things await you and you want to have no vestiges of the old in the way.
The old colors the new experience, as well as your vision of the new one.
Don’t water down the experience you are having in the present moment.
Your past served you well and prepared you to be in the present. Thank it and release that old version of you. You no longer relate the way you used to because you have grown and this relationship requires a different version of you to emerge. New experiences and vulnerabilities and levels of experimentation with who you are at the core.
The fullness of the new cannot enter if you are holding on to the connections you’ve outgrown. It’s okay to let them go. You’re not betraying them or forgetting them by moving on. This is the natural course.
You will not be aligned with your future if you hold on.
Trust that you will get what you need if you expand your vision and horizons and try the new, but fully immerse yourself.
Take the leap of faith and try the new.
It is time.
Every new relationship, not only romantic, requires you to let go of the old and create the new. Sometimes it means creating the new with your partner/friend/coworker.
Attachment theory helps us understand how profound it is for us to bring old baggage from childhood to the current relationship. We tend to do this more than we might realize. Who are you reacting or responding to right now? Are you responding to someone from your past or are you responding to the current situation? Not blaming or pathologizing that, just asking for a heightened awareness.
Even if you are not thinking about your childhood and the template for connection in the current moment, chances are you are responding to something from that, even decades later.
If you don’t release the old, it gets in the way of the new. You are not who you were an hour ago, when you exist fully in the now.
You have a new contract and new lessons to learn in this relationship. The previous agreements have expired and the path has changed. No longer relevant to who you are now…
Michael Singer in “Untethered Soul” talks about letting go of the past to be here now.
Many counselors would advise you to be in the present moment. Allow the emotional baggage of your past to be in the past. We are moving forward, not back. The past belongs in the past.
It’s time to move on.
Hanging onto the old does not serve you.
Yes, cherish the old and honor what you learned from them and from the relationship itself.
You journeyed and learned new levels - thank them for it. Update your software. Sometimes we carry the baggage from childhood and treat the person in front of us in a certain way, due to something that happened decades ago.
Moving forward, we don’t navigate by looking in the rear view mirror.
We don’t benefit by bringing baggage with us.
Let it go.
This is different and the old rules will get in the way of this one. Your old relationships are in the past and you’re moving forward to the future.
New things await you and you want to have no vestiges of the old in the way.
The old colors the new experience, as well as your vision of the new one.
Don’t water down the experience you are having in the present moment.
Your past served you well and prepared you to be in the present. Thank it and release that old version of you. You no longer relate the way you used to because you have grown and this relationship requires a different version of you to emerge. New experiences and vulnerabilities and levels of experimentation with who you are at the core.
The fullness of the new cannot enter if you are holding on to the connections you’ve outgrown. It’s okay to let them go. You’re not betraying them or forgetting them by moving on. This is the natural course.
You will not be aligned with your future if you hold on.
Trust that you will get what you need if you expand your vision and horizons and try the new, but fully immerse yourself.
Take the leap of faith and try the new.
It is time.
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