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Remember this one?
Do you know the secret of change?
“Focus all of your energy, not fighting the old, but on building the new.” Dan Millman
One mistake most of us make is to bite off more than we can chew. Imagine how successful you would be if you focused on just one change right now, not 3-5 or more. One new change per month can be sustained and in a year, you have 12 new habits!
Don’t stay there
Acknowledge the pain, don’t drown in it. Don’t avoid it or pretend it never happened. Don’t focus on it for hours each day. It hurt and you want to heal, that is the lesson the pain is teaching you- something has to change. Do it with self-compassion!
https://archive.org/details/empathy-compassion-forgiveness-gratitude-and-criticism-for-couples
Audio (free with my voice) for Empathy, Compassion and Criticism
Build the new relationship you want with your partner or create a new life with the wisdom you acquired.
Step by step, like building a new house, create a relationship that serves you. Think about what was lacking and turn that complaint into a positive statement. “I want a relationship where we promptly talk about what is bothering us instead of letting it build up.” “I want to be able to predict when we will talk and feel close emotionally and physically.”
All of your energy goes to creating, not wallowing.
Please note that I am in the process of compiling resources for couples (self help style) who are going through the process of healing from an affair. We know so much and if we can disseminate that information, many people will have the opportunity for profound healing.
Check me out on Payhip and please know I am adding more as I finish editing. I don't want a polished, perfect resource- that leads us to believe that we have to be perfect to benefit or be worthy. My thought is that you would rather I was real and authentic with you instead of pretending that everything is polished. Let's get information out there rather than wait until everything is perfect.
Did you know that people freely give attention to those who nurture and support them? I challenge you to nurture and support those around you in ways that are meaningful to them.
I would ask my clients to please let me know if you use my blog to continue the growth between sessions. It can be another resource for you.
Thank you for joining me today and I look forward to spending more time together in the future.
Thank you for subscribing,
Don Boice, LCSWR
“The go- to guy for conflict”
Remember this one?
Do you know the secret of change?
“Focus all of your energy, not fighting the old, but on building the new.” Dan Millman
One mistake most of us make is to bite off more than we can chew. Imagine how successful you would be if you focused on just one change right now, not 3-5 or more. One new change per month can be sustained and in a year, you have 12 new habits!
Don’t stay there
Acknowledge the pain, don’t drown in it. Don’t avoid it or pretend it never happened. Don’t focus on it for hours each day. It hurt and you want to heal, that is the lesson the pain is teaching you- something has to change. Do it with self-compassion!
https://archive.org/details/empathy-compassion-forgiveness-gratitude-and-criticism-for-couples
Audio (free with my voice) for Empathy, Compassion and Criticism
Build the new relationship you want with your partner or create a new life with the wisdom you acquired.
Step by step, like building a new house, create a relationship that serves you. Think about what was lacking and turn that complaint into a positive statement. “I want a relationship where we promptly talk about what is bothering us instead of letting it build up.” “I want to be able to predict when we will talk and feel close emotionally and physically.”
All of your energy goes to creating, not wallowing.
Please note that I am in the process of compiling resources for couples (self help style) who are going through the process of healing from an affair. We know so much and if we can disseminate that information, many people will have the opportunity for profound healing.
Check me out on Payhip and please know I am adding more as I finish editing. I don't want a polished, perfect resource- that leads us to believe that we have to be perfect to benefit or be worthy. My thought is that you would rather I was real and authentic with you instead of pretending that everything is polished. Let's get information out there rather than wait until everything is perfect.
Did you know that people freely give attention to those who nurture and support them? I challenge you to nurture and support those around you in ways that are meaningful to them.
I would ask my clients to please let me know if you use my blog to continue the growth between sessions. It can be another resource for you.
Thank you for joining me today and I look forward to spending more time together in the future.
Thank you for subscribing,
Don Boice, LCSWR
“The go- to guy for conflict”
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