She told me about her husband and the tradeoffs she made in her mind.
He was the high school quarterback. Dashing good looks, kept himself in great physical shape. Very handy and could build it and rebuild anything. Made very good money with his job. Nice house, nice lawn, all the toys, everything in good shape and zero debt. Always on top of the projects around the house.
The only trade offs were these two: he had a hard time being faithful to her, and he drank too much pretty much every day.
These are some of the decisions that we have to make.
What she didn’t say is that he also had a temper, especially when he was drinking. He didn’t really understand how feelings work and didn’t care to emotionally connect to people.
So his relationship skills were abysmal, but he was good looking, fun, and helpful around the house.
I sometimes ask people what they find important in a dating relationship. what they often will tell me is they’re looking for a handyman, good roommate, and they don’t really expect the person to be good in relationships.
That surprises me that you would want to relationship with someone who only provides things that you can hire out.
I think we’ve lost our focus when it comes to dating and what’s important in a long-term healthy relationship.
No wonder we’re struggling so badly
Or maybe I am being judgmental and asking for too much...
He was the high school quarterback. Dashing good looks, kept himself in great physical shape. Very handy and could build it and rebuild anything. Made very good money with his job. Nice house, nice lawn, all the toys, everything in good shape and zero debt. Always on top of the projects around the house.
The only trade offs were these two: he had a hard time being faithful to her, and he drank too much pretty much every day.
These are some of the decisions that we have to make.
What she didn’t say is that he also had a temper, especially when he was drinking. He didn’t really understand how feelings work and didn’t care to emotionally connect to people.
So his relationship skills were abysmal, but he was good looking, fun, and helpful around the house.
I sometimes ask people what they find important in a dating relationship. what they often will tell me is they’re looking for a handyman, good roommate, and they don’t really expect the person to be good in relationships.
That surprises me that you would want to relationship with someone who only provides things that you can hire out.
I think we’ve lost our focus when it comes to dating and what’s important in a long-term healthy relationship.
No wonder we’re struggling so badly
Or maybe I am being judgmental and asking for too much...
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