What we misunderstand about being cheated on
You are not responsible for the cheating, you are responsible for healing from it.
This is how it will make life better for you, it will upset your expectations. Remember that we believe the words of experts, and give them attention.
No one is going to do the work for you.
I know you already know that and sometimes it is annoying to hear. This is the time to put in the hard work. It is not fair that you have to do the work for when someone else hurt you.
I would ask my clients to please let me know if you use my blog to continue the growth between sessions. It can be another resource for you.
One full section of the blog series is devoted to how to heal and techniques to cope with the pain and come out stronger on the other side. This is how it will make life better. You can get better. You can heal. You can learn to trust again and it benefits you profoundly to do so.
This current section has some ideas for healing, yet it is more focused on keeping you on track and organized in approaching an affair. How you approach it mentally and emotionally often dictates your success with it.
Another section has some overlap. It deals with emotional affairs. This is often where a physical affair originates, and it might be helpful to know the context.
Some people say there is no such thing as an emotional affair, but people have uninformed opinions on all sorts of things.
Inform yourself. In the meantime, please read this and answer the questions. It will help soothe you, but not give you false hope or platitudes.
Challenge: Did you know that people freely give attention to those who nurture and support them? I challenge you to nurture and support those around you in ways that are meaningful to them. It might be too early to do this with the person who hurt you. What you want to do is not let this harden you. You can learn to trust people who are trustworthy. Don’t overgeneralize here. This person did something that was not trustworthy, that is true. Let it be what it is without adding meaning to it.
You are not responsible for the cheating, you are responsible for healing from it.
This is how it will make life better for you, it will upset your expectations. Remember that we believe the words of experts, and give them attention.
No one is going to do the work for you.
I know you already know that and sometimes it is annoying to hear. This is the time to put in the hard work. It is not fair that you have to do the work for when someone else hurt you.
I would ask my clients to please let me know if you use my blog to continue the growth between sessions. It can be another resource for you.
One full section of the blog series is devoted to how to heal and techniques to cope with the pain and come out stronger on the other side. This is how it will make life better. You can get better. You can heal. You can learn to trust again and it benefits you profoundly to do so.
This current section has some ideas for healing, yet it is more focused on keeping you on track and organized in approaching an affair. How you approach it mentally and emotionally often dictates your success with it.
Another section has some overlap. It deals with emotional affairs. This is often where a physical affair originates, and it might be helpful to know the context.
Some people say there is no such thing as an emotional affair, but people have uninformed opinions on all sorts of things.
Inform yourself. In the meantime, please read this and answer the questions. It will help soothe you, but not give you false hope or platitudes.
Challenge: Did you know that people freely give attention to those who nurture and support them? I challenge you to nurture and support those around you in ways that are meaningful to them. It might be too early to do this with the person who hurt you. What you want to do is not let this harden you. You can learn to trust people who are trustworthy. Don’t overgeneralize here. This person did something that was not trustworthy, that is true. Let it be what it is without adding meaning to it.
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