COUPLES RETREAT
Enlightenment Through Ecstasy: An Adventure Into Sacred Sexuality
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Take your sex life from “great” to “Wow, I didn’t think that was possible!”
Yes, we will still take you even if your sex life isn’t great, yet. But you have to promise you’ll catch up.
In person options include: (At this time, we are focusing on virtual retreats, so you can go at your own pace and review with your partner at your leisure. For more links, go to "Services" tab and at the bottom, you may download the latest workbooks. For the audios, go to www.archive.org and search "Don Boice" )
3 Hour Workshop
6 Hour Retreat
Weekend Retreat (offered two Sundays, non-consecutive weeks)
Weeklong Retreat (location to be determined- Covid has affected availability)
Format
The format is that we will do the educational portion together, socially-distanced and then each couple will have their own break out room to discuss the material, behind closed doors. No need to air dirty laundry or talk in front of strangers. Each workshop is self-contained and while there is overlap because the content is similar, the idea is that there is so much material that can be covered, that it starts with a pre-retreat handout (or workbook, in the case of the week long retreat), to get yourself in the right mindset and culminates in a week-long retreat (imagine we are in Bali) and when you return home, you have a post-retreat workbook that can last you a year or more, reinforcing what you learned and supporting/urging you to continue to grow and develop.
In essence, the retreat ends when you, the couple, say it ends.
Please note: You are in control of the pace. If you feel pressure to do the pre-retreat handout or workbook, decide how much you can reasonably do without inducing stress. Yes, you get more out of it by doing more preparation, but the process should be enjoyable. No stress, please...
Looking to have more and do some online and self directed
Thank you to the participants in early 2022- great feedback and know where I need to improve and what worked great!
“As a lesbian couple, we were apprehensive about a man leading the retreat. Don embraced us. He was sensitive to our needs and made certain we fit in and felt comfortable.”
“My spouse was really out of touch with feelings. It was like living with a computer or a robot. I thought I had to settle for that. This retreat really got him out of his head, and into his body, into his heart. He is now able to give and receive pleasure, express emotion instead of spew them, and be affectionate. It surpassed my expectations.”
What has to happen for you to say to yourself, “I am so glad I did that retreat”?
3 Hour Pre-Valentine’s Day Workshop February 12
Step up your game and get that spark back.
How much pleasure can you stand?
When is the last time you wowed your partner?
Please don’t sign up if you do not want to create a future overflowing with ecstasy, connection, pleasure and love.
Have the best connection of your life.
Oh, and you might want to check with your physician to see if you’re healthy enough for multiple orgasms. Unless, of course, you shouldn’t be allowed to have this much pleasure because you have an issue that hasn’t been worked out.
What do we do with this? We show you how to set the stage, the mood.
In this workshop, we will talk about brainstorming for Valentine’s Day.
Not just a card, the meal, the activity- but with your partner in mind and their love languages. So many couples get in a rut, not only on this day….
Be nice, behave, listen to them to understand, not listen just to respond. Basically tune in and quickly put yourself in a good mood. There is a lot of focus on how to put yourself, and your partner, in a good mood. You want to be happy, right?
These fill up quickly. Email me for more information donboice@boicecounseling.com
6 Hour Pre-Valentine’s Day Retreat January 29
Are you someone who goes for what you want?
What would happen if you did that with your sex life and your relationship?
Think about it, “Only humans can mess up sex.”
You like me, want the best for yourself and your partner. I want you to feel wonderful that you stepped up and made it happen. I want you to look back at this retreat and think to yourself, “I am thrilled with how my life has changed and I made it happen. Best money I ever spent.” Who wouldn’t want their sex life to be amazing? The question is, “How good do you want to feel?”
Boice Counseling is offering “Enlightenment Through Ecstasy”
The focus here is on the Sacred mindset. How to increase desire and arousal in yourself and in your partner.
Okay, so you’ll have more sex, it will be better because you’re talking and working together as partners to make it better and you’ll have feedback.
It’s not just about technique, it’s not about just the orgasm, but the mind.
Best tip for great sex from a sacred standpoint, “Slow Down.” Enjoy yourself, get out of your own way and appreciate the process.
How to build rapport and connection for responsive sex and better communication.
You’re in the moment and spontaneous and it will improve other areas of your life as well.
What do I want? What does my partner want?
Be prepared to answer your partner when they ask you, “How much pleasure can you stand?”
These fill up quickly. Email me for more information donboice@boicecounseling.com
Weekend Retreat (two non-consecutive days)
You either want to give your partner more ecstasy, more pleasure, or you don’t.
Of course some people are concerned about their performance. Yes, we talk about that and how to improve technique and you will naturally build confidence when you master technique. What we are doing is helping you build capacity for intimacy, emotional and physical and once you are connected, the physical body knows how to bathe you in ecstasy. If you build it, your partner will…
We ask you to develop your self-discipline. When you are in good physical shape, good emotional shape and work on your communication- you are tuned in! You are similar to an elite athlete and you perform accordingly.
Think about a time in the future you could use this. If you don’t put in the work…you perform accordingly.
Feedback loops are important here, too.
The feedback you got was… And you’re 100% sure you understood that feedback? What happened next? Was it the best connection ever?
It is a never ending process. Always room for improvement and let’s have gratitude for how far we have come.
How much pleasure can you stand?
Weeklong Retreat
Would you be OK with a more ecstatic life?
“No thank you. I don’t want better sex. I’m already connected enough. I prefer to settle.”
That was painful just to pretend and yet, many couples have tacitly agreed to not confront their inadequacies, their insecurities in the bedroom (or throughout the house).
How well do you know your partners turn-ons and turn-offs?
Would your partner agree? What might go right if you truly knew your partner’s deepest desires, their preferences, their inner workings?
Are you excited about your sex life yet? You will be. You will be.
Sacred sexuality is not about the endless orgasms, though many people talk about that.
Enlightenment through Ecstasy is about bringing ecstasy into the relationship and if you reach enlightenment, that would be wonderful and you will thoroughly enjoy the union, the connection, the pleasure, the ecstasy in the journey.
It is not about the destination of love, or even passion; it is about the journey that you traverse with your partner.
“My partner wants my highest good, my ecstasy and is willing to do the work to take me to levels I have never witnessed. I value that and it has the power and potential to rejuvenate me, to refocus me on my highest values.”
Format
There is a pre-retreat workbook, that you do with your partner. I challenge you and put you in a space that you can succeed. We stack the deck in your favor. You are working on this for at least a month before the retreat, which means you are physically ready for rigorous sexual activity. You are setting your intention, so you are spiritually and emotionally ready for what happens when you allow that level of pleasure and ecstasy, so it doesn’t blow your mind (in a bad way). Come prepared...
Listen to this pre-retreat audio https://archive.org/details/pre-retreat-what-to-expect-from-the-content
There is the retreat itself and there is a workbook for that, as well, so you can take notes while it is happening and remind yourself what you learned when you return home and you can take notes throughout the process. You will see that we have a bunch of topics we will learn, review, reinforce, practice, so that the material becomes your own.
There is the educational part with the group, but the process itself you do with your partner in your room. You don’t have to spill the beans or talk about your preferences in a group setting.
When you get back home, there is a workbook to keep this habit going, this inner exploration, emotional connection and urging you to keep on the growth path.
After about a year or so, depending on your pace as a couple, you will complete the workbook and assume responsibility for future paths and can always go back and start it again, on your own. You can also seek me out to help you polish skills or mindset to reach the highest level possible.
Note: The number one tantra tip is to slow down and enjoy the journey. It is not just about orgasm or the destination. It is about connection and reaching unity.
Obviously the best sexual techniques include emotions- how they work to get that deep emotional connection,
that unity, and we will go through multiple communication exercises.
Be prepared, once again, to honestly answer the question, “How much pleasure can you stand?”
Note: Your relationship does not have to be in trouble to improve it. Don’t wait until it gets worse. You can make it vibrant now.
*Self Directed Retreat
Please don’t let distance or timing get in your way. Don’t allow yourself any excuses. If you would like to improve your sex life and relationship at your own pace, in the comfort of your own home, for free, you are welcome to download the Sacred Sexuality Workbooks (above) on this website and you are welcome to share them with others.
You can run your own self-directed Retreat!
Please check with your medical provider to see if you are healthy enough for multiple orgasms.
Below is information that might be of interest to you if you want a healthy sex life. Always growing and developing and improving...
Take your sex life from “great” to “Wow, I didn’t think that was possible!”
Yes, we will still take you even if your sex life isn’t great, yet. But you have to promise you’ll catch up.
In person options include: (At this time, we are focusing on virtual retreats, so you can go at your own pace and review with your partner at your leisure. For more links, go to "Services" tab and at the bottom, you may download the latest workbooks. For the audios, go to www.archive.org and search "Don Boice" )
3 Hour Workshop
6 Hour Retreat
Weekend Retreat (offered two Sundays, non-consecutive weeks)
Weeklong Retreat (location to be determined- Covid has affected availability)
Format
The format is that we will do the educational portion together, socially-distanced and then each couple will have their own break out room to discuss the material, behind closed doors. No need to air dirty laundry or talk in front of strangers. Each workshop is self-contained and while there is overlap because the content is similar, the idea is that there is so much material that can be covered, that it starts with a pre-retreat handout (or workbook, in the case of the week long retreat), to get yourself in the right mindset and culminates in a week-long retreat (imagine we are in Bali) and when you return home, you have a post-retreat workbook that can last you a year or more, reinforcing what you learned and supporting/urging you to continue to grow and develop.
In essence, the retreat ends when you, the couple, say it ends.
Please note: You are in control of the pace. If you feel pressure to do the pre-retreat handout or workbook, decide how much you can reasonably do without inducing stress. Yes, you get more out of it by doing more preparation, but the process should be enjoyable. No stress, please...
Looking to have more and do some online and self directed
Thank you to the participants in early 2022- great feedback and know where I need to improve and what worked great!
“As a lesbian couple, we were apprehensive about a man leading the retreat. Don embraced us. He was sensitive to our needs and made certain we fit in and felt comfortable.”
“My spouse was really out of touch with feelings. It was like living with a computer or a robot. I thought I had to settle for that. This retreat really got him out of his head, and into his body, into his heart. He is now able to give and receive pleasure, express emotion instead of spew them, and be affectionate. It surpassed my expectations.”
What has to happen for you to say to yourself, “I am so glad I did that retreat”?
3 Hour Pre-Valentine’s Day Workshop February 12
Step up your game and get that spark back.
How much pleasure can you stand?
When is the last time you wowed your partner?
Please don’t sign up if you do not want to create a future overflowing with ecstasy, connection, pleasure and love.
Have the best connection of your life.
Oh, and you might want to check with your physician to see if you’re healthy enough for multiple orgasms. Unless, of course, you shouldn’t be allowed to have this much pleasure because you have an issue that hasn’t been worked out.
What do we do with this? We show you how to set the stage, the mood.
In this workshop, we will talk about brainstorming for Valentine’s Day.
Not just a card, the meal, the activity- but with your partner in mind and their love languages. So many couples get in a rut, not only on this day….
Be nice, behave, listen to them to understand, not listen just to respond. Basically tune in and quickly put yourself in a good mood. There is a lot of focus on how to put yourself, and your partner, in a good mood. You want to be happy, right?
These fill up quickly. Email me for more information donboice@boicecounseling.com
6 Hour Pre-Valentine’s Day Retreat January 29
Are you someone who goes for what you want?
What would happen if you did that with your sex life and your relationship?
Think about it, “Only humans can mess up sex.”
You like me, want the best for yourself and your partner. I want you to feel wonderful that you stepped up and made it happen. I want you to look back at this retreat and think to yourself, “I am thrilled with how my life has changed and I made it happen. Best money I ever spent.” Who wouldn’t want their sex life to be amazing? The question is, “How good do you want to feel?”
Boice Counseling is offering “Enlightenment Through Ecstasy”
The focus here is on the Sacred mindset. How to increase desire and arousal in yourself and in your partner.
Okay, so you’ll have more sex, it will be better because you’re talking and working together as partners to make it better and you’ll have feedback.
It’s not just about technique, it’s not about just the orgasm, but the mind.
Best tip for great sex from a sacred standpoint, “Slow Down.” Enjoy yourself, get out of your own way and appreciate the process.
How to build rapport and connection for responsive sex and better communication.
You’re in the moment and spontaneous and it will improve other areas of your life as well.
What do I want? What does my partner want?
Be prepared to answer your partner when they ask you, “How much pleasure can you stand?”
These fill up quickly. Email me for more information donboice@boicecounseling.com
Weekend Retreat (two non-consecutive days)
You either want to give your partner more ecstasy, more pleasure, or you don’t.
Of course some people are concerned about their performance. Yes, we talk about that and how to improve technique and you will naturally build confidence when you master technique. What we are doing is helping you build capacity for intimacy, emotional and physical and once you are connected, the physical body knows how to bathe you in ecstasy. If you build it, your partner will…
We ask you to develop your self-discipline. When you are in good physical shape, good emotional shape and work on your communication- you are tuned in! You are similar to an elite athlete and you perform accordingly.
Think about a time in the future you could use this. If you don’t put in the work…you perform accordingly.
Feedback loops are important here, too.
The feedback you got was… And you’re 100% sure you understood that feedback? What happened next? Was it the best connection ever?
It is a never ending process. Always room for improvement and let’s have gratitude for how far we have come.
How much pleasure can you stand?
Weeklong Retreat
Would you be OK with a more ecstatic life?
“No thank you. I don’t want better sex. I’m already connected enough. I prefer to settle.”
That was painful just to pretend and yet, many couples have tacitly agreed to not confront their inadequacies, their insecurities in the bedroom (or throughout the house).
How well do you know your partners turn-ons and turn-offs?
Would your partner agree? What might go right if you truly knew your partner’s deepest desires, their preferences, their inner workings?
Are you excited about your sex life yet? You will be. You will be.
Sacred sexuality is not about the endless orgasms, though many people talk about that.
Enlightenment through Ecstasy is about bringing ecstasy into the relationship and if you reach enlightenment, that would be wonderful and you will thoroughly enjoy the union, the connection, the pleasure, the ecstasy in the journey.
It is not about the destination of love, or even passion; it is about the journey that you traverse with your partner.
“My partner wants my highest good, my ecstasy and is willing to do the work to take me to levels I have never witnessed. I value that and it has the power and potential to rejuvenate me, to refocus me on my highest values.”
Format
There is a pre-retreat workbook, that you do with your partner. I challenge you and put you in a space that you can succeed. We stack the deck in your favor. You are working on this for at least a month before the retreat, which means you are physically ready for rigorous sexual activity. You are setting your intention, so you are spiritually and emotionally ready for what happens when you allow that level of pleasure and ecstasy, so it doesn’t blow your mind (in a bad way). Come prepared...
Listen to this pre-retreat audio https://archive.org/details/pre-retreat-what-to-expect-from-the-content
There is the retreat itself and there is a workbook for that, as well, so you can take notes while it is happening and remind yourself what you learned when you return home and you can take notes throughout the process. You will see that we have a bunch of topics we will learn, review, reinforce, practice, so that the material becomes your own.
There is the educational part with the group, but the process itself you do with your partner in your room. You don’t have to spill the beans or talk about your preferences in a group setting.
When you get back home, there is a workbook to keep this habit going, this inner exploration, emotional connection and urging you to keep on the growth path.
After about a year or so, depending on your pace as a couple, you will complete the workbook and assume responsibility for future paths and can always go back and start it again, on your own. You can also seek me out to help you polish skills or mindset to reach the highest level possible.
Note: The number one tantra tip is to slow down and enjoy the journey. It is not just about orgasm or the destination. It is about connection and reaching unity.
Obviously the best sexual techniques include emotions- how they work to get that deep emotional connection,
that unity, and we will go through multiple communication exercises.
Be prepared, once again, to honestly answer the question, “How much pleasure can you stand?”
Note: Your relationship does not have to be in trouble to improve it. Don’t wait until it gets worse. You can make it vibrant now.
*Self Directed Retreat
Please don’t let distance or timing get in your way. Don’t allow yourself any excuses. If you would like to improve your sex life and relationship at your own pace, in the comfort of your own home, for free, you are welcome to download the Sacred Sexuality Workbooks (above) on this website and you are welcome to share them with others.
You can run your own self-directed Retreat!
Please check with your medical provider to see if you are healthy enough for multiple orgasms.
Below is information that might be of interest to you if you want a healthy sex life. Always growing and developing and improving...
| Female arousal and desire |
| Four pillars of intimacy |
| 7 Principles of an effective relationship; Relationship Cure |
| Help me get my boyfriend or husband into counseling |
| Notes from Mars and Venus Together Forever by John Gray |
| Suggested reading list for improving relationship passion |
| Validation practice worksheet |
| What is it like to be a man? |
| EFT Emotional freedom technique |
