WELCOME

Do you have baggage from a past relationship? Do you need someone who understands how hard it can be to ask for help; not take sides; someone who will listen and offer practical suggestions; someone who doesn't want you dependent? You may be looking for couples counseling with Don Boice.

You know, there's gotta be a way to find what you are looking for.

Do you want a counseling office to call you back? We do that here because we value you and know how hard it can be to reach out. 9-3 pm Monday through Friday, you can expect a call back.



Welcome Video
Welcome to Boice Counseling

Welcome Audio (to talk about how we use feedback) 
Welcome and Feedback

 
                           Conflict
He's the go-to-guy for resolving conflict. You can have disagreements and be respectful, where both walk away with their dignity intact. Strongly suggest that you look at the handouts entitled, "Talker and Listener" so that you have rules of engagement for a discussion that involves feelings. Just need a booster until next session? Go to Responding to Bad Behavior

Haven't you waited long enough to get what you really want?

Life Long Learning
Don's learning is designed to specifically address issues of his clients. You benefit from his education and his enjoyment of learning. Always up to date and looking for ways to help couples, Don Boice has a Master's Degree in Social Work from the University of Pennsylvania, took multiple years of Couples workshops at Harvard Continuing Education and is licensed in New York as a Clinical Social Worker.  He uses the insights from many different researchers and most frequently uses resources from multiple trainings with John Gottman, PhD. He is research- based, practical, the information is immediately applicable and he gives handouts to help you take the information with you. If you want more information, there are links throughout this website to video, audios he himself produced and written information. It is all free, so that, if you find something you resonate with, you can easily download it or print it out or send it to someone else who could use it . Some people have found that wide ranging topics of his blog to be helpful and have subscribed to that. It is on this website.

Don is a voracious reader and consumer of information, always reading and going to training, improving his own skills and knowledge. He jokingly says he is going to "The Personality Gym." Since he started providing counseling in 1989, he has worked with people in conflict and found ways to help them have good, productive, efficient, less toxic arguments. It is not always about just reducing conflict, sometimes it is about sacred sexuality, enlightenment through intimacy, getting the spark back, enhancing emotional connection, increasing courage to have difficult conversations and how to negotiate to get your needs met. 

Affair training by the Gottmans lead to a more systematic approach to couples who have been through it, from the Cascade, to a workbook and this article Can My Marriage Survive an Affair?  

With couples counseling, you will either get results in the first three sessions or you will move on. If you do not get results by session three, the suggestion is to fire Don and get a new counselor. It means there is a mismatch between you and the counselor or it means that you are not doing the work necessary to improve. Either way, change something up, since counseling is about change. If there is no change, counseling is not doing its job with you. You need to decide if you really want that new life and make it happen or if you're just going to let life happen to you.

Experience
He founded Boice Counseling in Irondequoit in 2007 after having had a private practice from 1999 to 2002 and working in different agencies. Over the past few decades, Don has counseled thousands of couples. Couples say they appreciate that he expects them to do homework, to hold themselves accountable and do the work that is necessary for successful outcomes.

Are you ready for things to be much better in your life? What are you willing to create in this next chapter of life?

                             Couples Focus
He specializes in couples, with a focus on conflict resolution, affairs, sacred sexuality, enlightenment through ecstasy,  understanding gender communication and creating an environment where both women and men feel comfortable to resolve their differences. 

How do I Choose a Couples Counselor? How to Choose a Couples Counselor

Have you seen the short video "Nail in the Head"? www.youtube.com/watch?v=-4EDhdAHrOg
It really helps couples understand communication dynamics that otherwise stump them. It is silly and some see it as slightly controversial and it has helped countless couples.
 
For those dealing with separating and divorce, consider watching the show "Blackish" episodes 20-23 of season 4- on point, very emotional and helps express things that might be happening for you, ex and the kids. Bring a tissue...

There's always another, and often better, way to do things. Test it out for yourself, does it serve you. You be the judge.

                                                    Contributions to the Field
Don's  first book, entitled Top Notch Couples - The First Five Skills, provides understanding and practical advice to readers. He also wrote a workbook dealing with the person who cheated, in an affair. His third book was a workbook for people with anxiety. If you are looking for his audio recordings (large collection of audios- free-  for couples from conflict to sacred sexuality), check out www.archive.org and search "Don Boice."
 
Do you feel bad enough now to make some changes, or would you rather wait until you feel even worse?

If you are interested in hearing some audio on selected topics, it might help with your counseling. Check out "Don Boice" on www.archive.org 
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                                                                 Newsworthy
Don was interviewed for a magazine article about dating in your 50s, a podcast about affairs, and a few radio shows about relationship dynamics and dating in your 50s. He is rolling out his Sacred Sexuality Retreats, focusing on Enlightenment Through Ecstasy for couples who want to be more emotionally connected, improve communication about their sex life and improve performance. There doesn't have to be a problem to address your sex life.

 He loves what he does and his purpose is to alleviate suffering wherever it occurs.

                                            "Suffering is optional, pain is not."                  

Schedule an Appointment
                 Contact Michelle, the Office Manager,
for a counseling appointment at 585.544.5342





My suitemate is
​Judith Lundquist, LCSW, PLLC

Licensed Clinical Social Worker

Judy works with adults, adolescents and families.

She is experienced in helping with anxiety, depression, parenting and family issues, trauma (physical, emotional and sexual) and loss, and other mental health issues, as well as support for caregivers.   

Judy has a very gentle yet direct approach and extensive training in individual and family therapy, using short term models or longer term treatment, whatever seems most helpful for each person. She has vast knowledge of resources in the Rochester, NY area.

Judy notes she has availability evenings in addition to weekday hours.

Judy has worked with individuals and families for more than 25 years and has also been a clinical supervisor for many of those years.  Her most recent position was Associate Director of Clinical Services for a nonprofit NYS licensed Mental Health Clinic.is

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​We offer offer face-to-face sessions, Telehealth services- video counseling and phone sessions for couples.

Please be safe and if you would prefer to be seen in person, call Michelle at 585.544.5342 so she can code your visit correctly.



























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