Do you have emotional baggage from a past relationship? Do you need someone who understands how hard it can be to ask for help; not take sides; someone who will listen and offer practical suggestions; someone who doesn't want you dependent? You may be looking for Don Boice.
Welcome to Boice Counseling
He's the go-to-guy for resolving conflict. You can have disagreements and be respectful, where both walk away with their dignity intact. He worked with couples going through divorce, using Divorce Mediation, and was a trainer at Divorce Mediation conferences. Fewer people are familiar with the process of Collaborative Divorce and how effective it is in successfully getting through the divorce process. He has been trained at that, as well.
Life Long Learning
Don's learning is designed to specifically address issues of his clients. You benefit from his education. Don Boice has a Master's Degree in Social Work from the University of Pennsylvania, took multiple years of Couples workshops at Harvard Continuing Education and is licensed in New York as a Clinical Social Worker. He uses the insights from many different researchers and most frequently uses resources from multiple trainings with John Gottman, PhD. He is research- based, practical, the information is immediately applicable and he gives handouts to help you take the information with you.
Don is a voracious reader and consumer of information, always going to training. Since he started counseling in 1989, he has worked with people in conflict and found ways to help them have good, productive, efficient, less toxic arguments. It is not always about just reducing conflict, sometimes it is about getting the spark back, enhancing emotional connection, increasing courage to have difficult conversations and how to negotiate to get your needs met.
Recent training by the Gottmans was about affairs. Can My Marriage Survive an Affair? read here
He founded Boice Counseling in Irondequoit in 2007 after having had a private practice from 1999 to 2002 and working in different agencies. Over the past few decades, Don has counseled thousands of individuals and couples. *The "R" beside Don's name indicates that he accepts insurance for counseling issues that have medical necessity, including depression and anxiety.
He specializes in couples, with a focus on conflict resolution, affairs, anger, understanding gender communication, anxiety and creating an environment where both women and men feel comfortable to resolve their differences.
Recently added the EmWave 2, from HeartMath, to the collection of biofeedback tools. He is fascinated to watch people realize that how they breathe, what they think about, causes their body to relax, or not relax. It takes away that helpless feeling when anxiety hits. When you know you can do something about it, the anxiety is less formidable.
Brief Relaxation Technique -Breathing
He has been studying trauma, how to heal it, how to recover, from the researchers who conducted the research for the past six years. He added EMDR to his training to help alleviate suffering.
Contributions to the Field
Don's first book, entitled Top Notch Couples - The First Five Skills, provides understanding and practical advice to readers. He also wrote one dealing with the person who cheated, in an affair. His third book was a workbook for people with anxiety. Listen to this audio of self soothing, helps for anxiety, depression, welcoming back the shadow sides of yourself. Self Soothing for Discouragement
He has also created multiple CDs from: Get the Spark Back, Anxiety Exercises, Contemplating Divorce, Anger Management. Want to sample? Conflict With Confidence
He compiled three workbooks to complement a retreat process for couples to explore their sacred sexuality. Not just how to be a better lover, but how to make love with the parts of you that actually make love. If this topic interests you, please listen to the audio, just realize that it is not PG.
What would you Like? (Not PG)
He is working on a Reiki Workbook for people who want to learn how to do reiki for themselves or go on to heal others. There are plans to add advanced techniques to make sure people have the best tools to heal. Want a sample? Exercises for Reiki
Don was recently interviewed for a magazine article about dating in your 50s, a podcast about affairs, and a few radio shows about relationship dynamics and dating in your 50s.
He loves what he does and his purpose is to alleviate suffering wherever it occurs.
"Suffering is optional, pain is not."
Schedule an Appointment
Contact Michelle, the Office Manager, for a counseling appointment at 585.544.5342
Kelly Thom DeFrees, M.S., R.N.
Please welcome Kelly Thom DeFrees to the practice.
You’ll notice a new name on the door, so please say hi.
You will appreciate the synergy of Reiki with Counseling. Sometimes Counseling just can’t get someone unstuck the way Reiki can. It works well with counseling and I have recommended many of my clients to her to help them reach a higher level. They appreciate how easy she makes the process, her soft and nurturing energy and the results they see.
She is a Reiki Master and Teacher of Reiki, helping to spread healing throughout the region, for the highest good of all. She is working on a project to help spread Reiki by teaching it in a way that is easily accessible.
Check out her website www.reikiwithkelly.org
She adds a Life Coach approach with people who have chronic health conditions. This helps them be empowered, to have tools they can use so they’re not dependent. This often helps by getting informed, supported and encouraged to do what is needed to manage the issues at hand to bring the person to optimal health. With a masters degree, she is a nurse by formal education, she can be a good teammate on your health team.
"She really woke me up. I didn’t even know that I was asleep. I can’t thank her enough for helping me get unstuck. Being a therapist is emotionally hard at times and she showed me how to take better care of my energy so as to not drain myself. It is like massage for the emotions. You’ve gotta try it with her. “ Don Boice (Counselor)
585.721.5215 -Call her directly to set up appointments- weekend hours available
Judith Lundquist, LCSW, PLLC
Licensed Clinical Social Worker
Judy works with adults, adolescents and families.
She is experienced in helping with anxiety, depression, parenting and family issues, trauma (physical, emotional and sexual) and loss, and other mental health issues, as well as support for caregivers.
Judy has a very gentle yet direct approach and extensive training in individual and family therapy, using short term models or longer term treatment, whatever seems most helpful for each person. She has vast knowledge of resources in the Rochester, NY area.
Judy notes she has availability evenings in addition to weekday hours.
Judy has worked with individuals and families for more than 25 years and has also been a clinical supervisor for many of those years. Her most recent position was Associate Director of Clinical Services for a nonprofit NYS licensed Mental Health Clinic.is
Due to the State of Emergency in New York, we offer Telehealth services- video counseling and distance sessions, no face-to-face until the State of Emergency is over. Please be safe and we look forward to seeing you in person when it is safe to do so.
Please Welcome Reiki Master Kelly Thom DeFrees R.N, M.S. to our suite