Helpful Resources
Client Portal
If you are a new client to Boice Counseling you can talk to Michelle 585.544.5342 and she will take you to the portal.
For your convenience, you can do the paperwork, save a tree or two, with bank level encryption, you can enter your credit card information and then, in the future, you can make your own appointments and pay for the sessions at your convenience. You have the option of talking to Michelle and making appointments as well as paying over the phone (during the pandemic).
Our preference is for you to fill out the paperwork prior to our first session, so we can spend the time together talking rather than filling out forms.
If you are someone who likes to be prepared and ready, who likes to prepare, I suggest you might appreciate the following information. Almost everyone who comes to counseling says that they are wonderful listeners, then they listen to correct, to convert, to persuade rather than listen to understand their partner.
If you can review the talker and listener job description, your relationship will instantly improve. Instantly! If you then validate when there is a difference, rather than judging or telling your partner they are unreasonable or ridiculous... Then if you stop doing the four horsemen (Gottman) which is essentially hitting below the belt, you will find your confidence in conflict goes up because you start it from a different mindset.
Resources You Might Appreciate
There are more helpful resources below and under the "Services" tab. Get as much free help as you can and then you will know what you really need from me and how to focus our time together.
| Is there anything I can do to get my boyfriend or husband into counseling with me? |
| Talker and Listener Job Description. Practice these repeatedly and watch your conflict respond.doc |
| Recommended Resources For Couples.docx |
| How To Validate.doc |
| I Statements.docx |
| Guidelines For More Productive Conflict.doc |
| Talking 9 to 5 by Deb Tannen Brilliant Gender Communication.doc |
| Communication skills assessment |
| How Are We Doing Couples Monthly Checkup.doc |
| Take responsibility for your thoughts |
| Mars and Venus : Together Forever by John Gray. Great insights About Gender.doc |
| Reduce Your Anxiety By Practicing These.doc |
| Depression.docx |
| Ideas to Try to Get a Good Night's Sleep.doc |
| Attachment Theory |
| Female Arousal and Desire For Couples to Get Physically Intimate.doc |
| How can I be a better husband? |
| Would You Like More Passion in Your Relationship? Read These.doc |
| Stop Arguing Over Chores.doc |
| Don't read this unless you want to be happy.doc |
| Exercise and depression |
| Who is Responsible For My Thoughts.doc |
