Peace of mind that you have done your best for your situation and children
Less likely to argue about petty things
More likely to have an intact long term relationship, which impacts co-parenting
Less animosity post-divorce
Equal playing field during the process
No one has the upper hand in mediation.
Money is saved and conserved for your children, rather than spent on legal fees.
How does mediation affect the children?
From the mouths of children:
“Our needs are the focus of the mediation”
“Parents are less likely to use us as pawns”
Parents are less angry at the other parent because no one has the upper hand in mediation
“Less awkward when our parents communicate, so we don’t have to be the parents, we can just be kids”
Parents have had some cooling down time and are more grounded in their decisions
“Parents feel empowered, which they then pass down to us”
“We didn’t really have a say in the whole separation and divorce and both parents are looking out for our best interests in mediation.’
It sets the tone for the future.
Parents are less likely to fight dysfunctionally after mediation.
“We know they don’t always agree and they learn better strategies to get their needs met.”
There is less wounding from the mediation process than from litigation.
Future encounters do not require healing before moving forward
Arguments have a forum wherein they can be discussed.
“My parents know and trust that they can go back to mediation, if needed, to talk through challenging situations. They have confidence that they can resolve pretty much anything, so they feel less desperate.”
Parents are less likely to be preoccupied and thinking about only themselves. Mediation helps them get on with their lives, and our lives, more quickly.
Less money spent usually means less blaming and less guilt for them
“Our parents are less wounded by this process so they can be more loving to us rather than using their energy to heal (more time for us, more money and love for us)”
At Boice Mediation, we offer peace of mind, resolution, closure, solutions and hope.