“What do I need? I need to feel safe in conversation with you. I need to not walk in with my hands ready to defend myself from a direct hit. I need to have faith that you’ll watch what you say and do the work of not saying hurtful things to me.”
The reply, “You are too sensitive.”
“You asked me what I need and I told you. You defended yourself by calling me too sensitive instead of listening to the needs. Perhaps I can work on how I express my needs, if something I said hit a nerve. Maybe I was doing a micro attack.”
Imagine asking for your needs and having a conversation that goes deeper.