Which one of us is more direct and what makes you think that?
What are the exceptions to that rule? Yes there are pretty much always exceptions.
What are the implications of this for our partnership? (please spend some time here- as a couples counselor, this is a daily dilemma for my clients. Many of their misunderstandings are due to this.)
How do we adjust or how could we adjust?
Please note, at different times, one may be more indirect than the other and then you switch. This is not one of those better than or worse than things, it is a style difference. Please avoid contempt and blame.