Remember Who You Are

Without getting too heady, attempt to define “I”.

 My challenge today is to try, for at least one hour, to not use the words “I, me, my, mine.” Just be aware of what it is like to do that.

I am distinct from what I am experiencing. I am not my feelings, or my thoughts, yet those are part of my experience. What you are noticing will pass. As long as you are watching, you are not getting lost in it. Remind yourself that you are watching it, observing it. Kinda like TV- it feels like you are really there and you might scream at the screen during the big game. Your heart rate might get elevated, and yet you are not the game, the TV. The TV is showing the game, the game is not really in your house, right? It feels real, though.

 Are you consciousness?

Who were you before you were conceived or born? Where were you?

So these questions are what got me reading The Untethered Soul again.

Great book- challenging, compelling, well-written and the explanations are easy to follow.


Tell me what you think.

Off to another Couples Conference this week. Today's blog has me looking back at the past year- a tumultuous one, a disorienting one, one in which I was challenged like never before to really look at what I rely on. This job, this field, is wonderfully spiritual.

It has been a huge year for learning- books, conferences, videos, podcasts etc. Oh yeah, and life, too. Someone asked me, "Why continue to learn so much after being in the field over 25 years?" 

I learn because I am alive, because I love to learn, to see connections I had not previously seen, because I cannot help but learn, because it is fun, because I owe it to my clients to be as prepared as humanly possible.

I enjoy learning new things, new perspectives and ways of looking at the world. No two couples are identical and yet the similarities are amazing. Every day someone says something I have never heard before. The more knowledge and wisdom I have, the more able I am to help them reduce their suffering. So on a knowledge front, it is essential. All the knowledge in the world, improperly applied, is of no use. This year I am working on developing my wisdom- how to integrate the knowledge, how to sit with it, make it my own, learn from my own experience as a husband and as a counselor- rather than simply relying on research and "the experts." When I teach, I have to really see the connections between concepts.

This is also the year I have worked to develop my training website www.brictraining.com, training business cards, logo, business name etc. I am applying the wisdom from building relationships and improving communication in the personal lives of my clients to the business world. 

"BRIC" stands for Building Relationships, Improving Communication

Could you imagine a workplace that values building relationships, rather than leveraging or exploiting them? Can you picture a business who values communication for more than just the money it brings them? Oddly enough, it would bring them even more money.

We are all in this together and my hope is that my accumulated knowledge and wisdom can help even more people.