Emotional Availability
Think about how good it feels to connect with people you love. It could be family or friends or a romantic partner…
When someone is going through a struggle, they are simply not available emotionally. Heck, even at our best, we are emotionally available roughly 50% of the time according to Gottman. That might be optimistic.
Now, the person who is available might not have all the necessary skills polished and the other person might not be available at that same time. Or maybe not physically available…
Yet, we all want to connect and feel disappointed when we don’t connect. It can be so frustrating to not get what we want when we want it.
The Takeaway: Don’t set yourself up by expecting more than what is possible.
Think about how good it feels to connect with people you love. It could be family or friends or a romantic partner…
When someone is going through a struggle, they are simply not available emotionally. Heck, even at our best, we are emotionally available roughly 50% of the time according to Gottman. That might be optimistic.
Now, the person who is available might not have all the necessary skills polished and the other person might not be available at that same time. Or maybe not physically available…
Yet, we all want to connect and feel disappointed when we don’t connect. It can be so frustrating to not get what we want when we want it.
The Takeaway: Don’t set yourself up by expecting more than what is possible.
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