I find it fascinating and I love the chapter that talks about judging. Here is what he writes about
that, “Judgments are human inventions, a means to compare, contrast, and control as we judge ourselves against artificial, and often idealistic, standards of perfection, morality, or truth. “
As youth fades and time brings changes,
we may change many of our present opinions.
So let us refrain from
setting ourselves up
as judge of the highest matters.
He continues, “If … doesn’t judge us, what right or business do we have to judge ourselves? And against whose standards? Those of us with the highest ideals and standards tend to judge ourselves more harshly than others would ever judge us. We judge and criticize not only our actions but also our thoughts and feelings – even our fantasies? We also judge others against our high vision; then we judge ourselves for judging others!
When we measure and compare everything against the yardstick of our vision and ideals,
everything falls short, because this isn’t an ideal world – it’s a real world with real people, growing, making mistakes, learning, and evolving. …What would it be like to live as best we can, accept our mistakes, learn from
them, and do a little better next time?"
What if we all judged just a little bit less?
Perhaps we should cut ourselves some slack?