Emily Nagoski PhD
“Orgasm is the sudden, involuntary release of tension generated in response to sex -related stimuli.
Orgasms vary from context to context, from person to person. All orgasms are different, and there’s no “better” kind of orgasm.
It’s even hard to say that there are different “kinds” of orgasm, except that they’re all made up with the same basic processes organized in different ways, and there are different ways to make them happen.
They can be delightful, Hum drum, spiritual, annoying, ecstatic, fun, or frustrating.
Sometimes they’re great. Sometimes they’re not. Sometimes you want them. Sometimes you don’t.
Context shapes whether, and how intensely, a sensation feels pleasurable.
The quality of an orgasm comes from whether you liked it and wanted it.
Distress about orgasm is the second most common reason that people seek treatment for sexual problems (after desire).
Pleasure is the perception of a sensation, and perception is context dependent.
Notice your general sensations, and your feelings about those sensations.
The opposite of sexual frustration is curiosity.
Exploration can be a new goal.”
“Orgasm is the sudden, involuntary release of tension generated in response to sex -related stimuli.
Orgasms vary from context to context, from person to person. All orgasms are different, and there’s no “better” kind of orgasm.
It’s even hard to say that there are different “kinds” of orgasm, except that they’re all made up with the same basic processes organized in different ways, and there are different ways to make them happen.
They can be delightful, Hum drum, spiritual, annoying, ecstatic, fun, or frustrating.
Sometimes they’re great. Sometimes they’re not. Sometimes you want them. Sometimes you don’t.
Context shapes whether, and how intensely, a sensation feels pleasurable.
The quality of an orgasm comes from whether you liked it and wanted it.
Distress about orgasm is the second most common reason that people seek treatment for sexual problems (after desire).
Pleasure is the perception of a sensation, and perception is context dependent.
Notice your general sensations, and your feelings about those sensations.
The opposite of sexual frustration is curiosity.
Exploration can be a new goal.”
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