Emily Nagoski PhD
Is planning sex unromantic?
“Is there anything we do that really matters to us that we do not plan? If something is important to us, we make time for it and our busy lives and are packed schedules. Sex must matter a lot if you’re willing to block out time on your calendar for it.”
How do I shift from the daily grind to this mindset?
Now, deliberately transition from day-to-day mind into this state of mind. All my attention is focused on pleasure and my partner, and our shared connection.
What would go on my to do list if I decided to transition from the everyday state of mind to this state of mind?
What does it feel like after I’ve made the transition?
What do I do to get there?
In the past when I have found my way to the magic circle, what strengths did I possess that allowed me to make the transition?
Activities you may want to try include:
completing the stress response,
reinforcing the sense of connection with your partner by talking about how you met,
what you admire about each other,
what great sex you have had before,
doing explicitly erotic things alone, or with your partner,
Practicing rituals of safety and welcome, (like candles),
getting ready for the party,
caring for your body and decorating it in ways that make you feel glorious.
Is planning sex unromantic?
“Is there anything we do that really matters to us that we do not plan? If something is important to us, we make time for it and our busy lives and are packed schedules. Sex must matter a lot if you’re willing to block out time on your calendar for it.”
How do I shift from the daily grind to this mindset?
Now, deliberately transition from day-to-day mind into this state of mind. All my attention is focused on pleasure and my partner, and our shared connection.
What would go on my to do list if I decided to transition from the everyday state of mind to this state of mind?
What does it feel like after I’ve made the transition?
What do I do to get there?
In the past when I have found my way to the magic circle, what strengths did I possess that allowed me to make the transition?
Activities you may want to try include:
completing the stress response,
reinforcing the sense of connection with your partner by talking about how you met,
what you admire about each other,
what great sex you have had before,
doing explicitly erotic things alone, or with your partner,
Practicing rituals of safety and welcome, (like candles),
getting ready for the party,
caring for your body and decorating it in ways that make you feel glorious.
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