I want you closer. Not that close. A little further back. Now closer, now further away. Now I am busy, so don’t bother me. Now I want deep emotional sharing, now I need space.
Leave me alone, but don’t leave the house or go out with friends. Spend time with me, but I am going to be on my phone, and computer, and texting and checking Facebook and Instagram etc.
Did I mention this all happened within a 24 hour period of time? As someone’s feelings shift and as they go to bed, or to work or out for a walk, their needs change. We generally want different things at different times. We are not consistent from day to day, hour to hour and we all give mixed messages. We all do. We do…
This is why it is important to clarify and to ask for your needs to be met. What are my needs for intimacy right now?
How close do I want to be?
Can I meet my needs without trampling on your needs?
Can I be okay with the fact that I am going to be inconsistent?
Leave me alone, but don’t leave the house or go out with friends. Spend time with me, but I am going to be on my phone, and computer, and texting and checking Facebook and Instagram etc.
Did I mention this all happened within a 24 hour period of time? As someone’s feelings shift and as they go to bed, or to work or out for a walk, their needs change. We generally want different things at different times. We are not consistent from day to day, hour to hour and we all give mixed messages. We all do. We do…
This is why it is important to clarify and to ask for your needs to be met. What are my needs for intimacy right now?
How close do I want to be?
Can I meet my needs without trampling on your needs?
Can I be okay with the fact that I am going to be inconsistent?
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