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Are You Aligned?

5/28/2020

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​Do you have your passion, your direction? Are you aligned with the highest good in your day to day life? Do you serve others and the world on a primal level? Are you settling for a second rate life or are you living life to the fullest? How are you betraying yourself in this very moment? Be open to feedback. Ask for it and watch how grateful you are when someone calls you on your BS. You want to be accountable, it just feels better.
 
Deida challenges both men and women in relationship. Sometimes it is hard to read or understand and other times it hurts because he is so accurate.
 
“To women:
When your man hurt you because he lacks direction, integrity, or charity, you can love him without supporting his weakness. Loving your partner when he hurts you includes not tolerating his bull.
 
“Women are exquisitely sensitive to their man’s alignment with his own truth. You know when he’s betraying himself before he knows sometimes-you feel it in his posture -you hear the ambiguity in his voice. You may know that he is deceiving himself before he is aware of anything.
 
“Your feedback can be a great gift to him -he will only trust your feedback if he feels your openness as love.
 
“You cannot disconnect from the love deep in your heart, tense your body in fear and anger, and then expect that he will believe you. He will think that you have a problem. He will criticize you or try to fix you instead of focusing on himself. Your unlove will hurt him and he will close off even more.
 
“Tell him about this place in him that you trust. Show him love through your body and your breath -tell him how you lose some of your trust when he acts a certain way. Remember that he probably does not know what you were talking about.” David Deida
 
Please go back and re-read this. There is quite a bit there. Put a note in your phone calendar to prompt yourself with this. Keep taking your inventory so that you keep growing. Women find that super attractive!
 
Have you tried doing the exercises on a regular basis (The Art of Sexual Ecstasy by Margo Anand) yet? Are you practicing this particular one 10-20 times before it becomes comfortable during sex? It is time to get the book, and read it, if you have not already done so. Here is an exercise to practice: The Pelvic Curl and Dual Pelvic Rocking
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    Don Boice
    Don Boice, LCSW-R, specializes in gender communication with couples in conflict.  

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