Someone came in for counseling and they were toying with the idea of not dating, just living. Not actively pursuing dating opportunities, but if one showed up and gained their interest, they would entertain it. In other words, they were okay being by themselves, no desperation or neediness.
Would you be surprised that this person found success fairly easily? Would you be surprised to read that not needing to date or not needing another person to complete them was attractive to others?
When you are at peace with yourself, you know yourself well and have plumbed the depths of your soul, you have different needs, wants and preferences.
That which you are seeking is causing you to seek. When you stop seeking, your energy is different.