Attachment theory can be so helpful in describing what is happening for you and how to move forward.
*Securely attached people keep even emotions in the face of threats, and it comes effortlessly for someone who is secure.
They simply are not as sensitive to the negative cues of the world.*
Sue Johnson - the clinical work and writings that creating true security in the relationship and recognizing that you are emotionally dependent on your partner on every level is the best way to improve your romantic bond.
Dr. Dan Siegel helps people become more secure. He teaches people with insecure attachment how to narrate their past history in a secure fashion.