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Beware "The Natural" Who Shows No Effort

8/18/2016

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Mindset by ​Carol Dweck PhD

The low -effort syndrome is part of the fixed mindset If you have to "Try" you are not a natural, they think. In reality, the highest achievers are usually the ones who have some natural talent, but have worked the hardest, in a smart manner.
 
If you are in education, she mentions students " Adolescence is one big test: Am I smart or dumb? Am I good -looking or ugly? Am I cool or nerdy?  Am I a winner or a loser? And in the fixed mindset, a loser is forever. " This puts them into a tough situation, rather than trying, they are attempting to simply prove they are a natural, a winner.
 
"They mobilize resources to protect their egos. One of the main ways they do this is by not trying."
 
"The students with growth mindset completely took charge of their learning and motivation. Instead of plunging into memorization of the course material they said, "I looked for themes and underlying principles across lectures, and I went over mistakes until I was certain I understood them."  This is why they got higher grades -not because they were smarter, they had a better background." She goes on to describe a situation in which the instructors told the students they were smart. After being told they were smart, they stopped trying so hard. When asked, the students essentially said that smart kids don't have to try, because they are smart. They were also more likely to hide their mistakes because in their own minds, smart people do not make mistakes.
 
"On the first day of class, she approached Freddy, a second-grader who was left back and wanted no part of school. "Come on, we have work to do. You can't just sit in the seat and grow smart. I promise, you're going to do and you were going to produce. I am not gonna let you fail."
 
"The fixed mindset limits achievement. It fills  peoples minds with interfering thoughts, it makes effort disagreeable, and it leads to inferior learning strategies. What's more, it makes other people into judges instead of allies. 
 
Whether we're talking to Darwin or college students, important achievement requires clear focus, all out effort, and a bottomless trunk full of strategies. 
 
This is what the growth mindset gives people, and that's why it helps their abilities grow and bear fruit."

This stuff fascinates me- how do we help motivate people?

​This really works like a charm!
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