By Emily Nagoski PhD
The author talks about brakes and accelerators in terms of sexual desire.
In her words:
What are some common things that activate the accelerator?
-Feeling wanted by your partner,
-feeling connected,
-thinking about sex,
-reading erotica,
-being touched just the right way,
-being in a setting associate with sex.
Common things that hit the brakes:
-stress,
-body image,
-shame,
-performance,
-anxiety,
-fear of being interrupted or caught,
-Trust,
-sexual trauma,
-parenting,
-reputational worries,
-feeling sex is expected,
-feeling obliged to have sex.