Silence is powerful. Many people have not practiced tolerating silence, which can be intimidating at first. The longer I sit in silence, the more I like it. There is so much to be learned from silence. Some people do silent retreats or take vows of silence. There is so much noise in our world, I don’t want to add to it.
Challenge- Sit in silence 5-10 minutes a day. No TV, Phone, Talking, music, screens, Texting etc. Feel the peace that comes with silence. Feel it deep into your being. Be at peace with yourself and your thoughts. Be curious about the thoughts that arise when you are quiet. Notice how many thoughts you have in a brief period of time. Pay attention to how your brain sometimes tries to trick you into thinking things that are not true. Reassure yourself. Instead of relying on others to validate you, do it yourself. Reassure yourself and watch how your mood shifts.
Imagine how this works with conflict. If you can reassure yourself, you are less dependent on them. Interdependent is good, dependent can be too much sometimes…
Imagine yourself in a conflict with someone you love, and you can handle the feelings that come with silence. You know their silence is about them, not you. You no longer feel rejected or abandoned because you have inner peace rather than inner conflict. What happens in the conflict when the silence comes? That is an immensely powerful mindset and skill to have in conflict.