What fears do we each have about sex?
Feel free to add your own and indicate which of the below might fit
You won’t find me attractive. I am not good enough. I am not good in bed. I don’t want you to see my body when I gain weight. I am afraid you will not be happy if I say "No" as often as I want to.
I'
m afraid you would think less of me if you knew how much I enjoy sex. I get triggered by my past sexual abuse sometimes and don’t know how to tell you.
Sometimes I am bored by our sex. I don’t want to put the work in to spice it up and am bored.
When I am depressed, I don’t want sex. I want sex a lot more than you do. I am afraid of infidelity.
I have some things about sex that I fear you will judge me about- preferences, fantasies etc. I am afraid I am not as good as your past partners. I am afraid of telling you what I want and want more of. The last time I told you that, you never did it again and I really liked it. I was too embarrassed to ask again.
Share those feelings and how to comfort one another when afraid.
End this exercise by focusing on "What is going well sexually?"
Feel free to add your own and indicate which of the below might fit
You won’t find me attractive. I am not good enough. I am not good in bed. I don’t want you to see my body when I gain weight. I am afraid you will not be happy if I say "No" as often as I want to.
I'
m afraid you would think less of me if you knew how much I enjoy sex. I get triggered by my past sexual abuse sometimes and don’t know how to tell you.
Sometimes I am bored by our sex. I don’t want to put the work in to spice it up and am bored.
When I am depressed, I don’t want sex. I want sex a lot more than you do. I am afraid of infidelity.
I have some things about sex that I fear you will judge me about- preferences, fantasies etc. I am afraid I am not as good as your past partners. I am afraid of telling you what I want and want more of. The last time I told you that, you never did it again and I really liked it. I was too embarrassed to ask again.
Share those feelings and how to comfort one another when afraid.
End this exercise by focusing on "What is going well sexually?"
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