Early dating is all about getting to know the other person and what they like and don’t like, what they’re looking for in a relationship etc.
You might be super attracted and want to spend time together in person. You might not be someone who desires time in person, or your life is in a place that you can’t make the schedule work to see each other. No blame is intended. Sometimes people would click in a year, but not now. Maybe this season is too busy and you’re overwhelmed.
How much time do you want, ideally, to spend together? Do you want to talk every waking moment? Do you want to just text and meet up every week for an hour or two? Put it out there and don’t take it personally. It’s similar to trying on clothing- it fits or it doesn’t fit. Nothing wrong with the clothing (person) just doesn’t fit. No blame and nothing personal.
I find that some of my clients are satisfied with a distance relationship, even when they live a few miles away. To my way of thinking, That’s on-line dating instead of meeting someone online and then doing actual dating in person. Not everyone does this the same way or wants to. That’s okay, it just means you’re close to fitting but not quite there. You have a ton to offer, are clearly desirable and with the right person and preference match, you’ll be happy.
Do you find phone conversations to be as satisfying as in person get togethers? Are they an equal experience? To me, it is similar to junk food. It fills the time with lower quality connection. It tricks you into thinking you have a connection. I recognize that sometimes it is necessary or desirable but I see people substituting it for actual connection. Not everyone sees it my way and I don’t want to persuade or convince you. No desire to change you, just let you know how I view it so you can understand me better.
Do you have enough time to get together in person and ask questions that lead to connecting?
When things are smooth, do you want a lot of time in person or a little? Why? What does an ideal week look like to you? Recognizing that everyone is looking for something that fits them…
During the work day
A zero texts/calls
B hourly contact
C three-five times
D only as needed
If you want more or less, ask for it.
You might be super attracted and want to spend time together in person. You might not be someone who desires time in person, or your life is in a place that you can’t make the schedule work to see each other. No blame is intended. Sometimes people would click in a year, but not now. Maybe this season is too busy and you’re overwhelmed.
How much time do you want, ideally, to spend together? Do you want to talk every waking moment? Do you want to just text and meet up every week for an hour or two? Put it out there and don’t take it personally. It’s similar to trying on clothing- it fits or it doesn’t fit. Nothing wrong with the clothing (person) just doesn’t fit. No blame and nothing personal.
I find that some of my clients are satisfied with a distance relationship, even when they live a few miles away. To my way of thinking, That’s on-line dating instead of meeting someone online and then doing actual dating in person. Not everyone does this the same way or wants to. That’s okay, it just means you’re close to fitting but not quite there. You have a ton to offer, are clearly desirable and with the right person and preference match, you’ll be happy.
Do you find phone conversations to be as satisfying as in person get togethers? Are they an equal experience? To me, it is similar to junk food. It fills the time with lower quality connection. It tricks you into thinking you have a connection. I recognize that sometimes it is necessary or desirable but I see people substituting it for actual connection. Not everyone sees it my way and I don’t want to persuade or convince you. No desire to change you, just let you know how I view it so you can understand me better.
Do you have enough time to get together in person and ask questions that lead to connecting?
When things are smooth, do you want a lot of time in person or a little? Why? What does an ideal week look like to you? Recognizing that everyone is looking for something that fits them…
During the work day
A zero texts/calls
B hourly contact
C three-five times
D only as needed
If you want more or less, ask for it.
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