Emily Nagoski PhD
There is a monitor in your brain that knows what your goal is, how much effort you are investing, and how much progress you are making. She is aware of the ratio of efforts to progress.
She has a very strong opinion, about what the ratio should be. This profoundly influences your state of mind.
When you feel it making good progress, you feel great, motivated, eager.
When this part brain feels that you’re not making enough progress towards your goal, relative to the effort that you’re investing, it grows frustrated, which motivates you to increase your effort to make more progress toward the goal.
If you’re still are not making enough progress to satisfy the little part of your brain, she gets angry and enraged.
If you continue to fall short -at a certain point, the monitor gives up and pushes you off an emotional cliff and into a pit of despair.
It tells itself that the goal is not attainable.
You enter a hopeless pit of despair.
How you feel about your sexuality is a major influence on your sexual well-being.
This monitor is the key to shaping how you feel about your sexuality from frustrated to helpless to celebrating it.
There is a monitor in your brain that knows what your goal is, how much effort you are investing, and how much progress you are making. She is aware of the ratio of efforts to progress.
She has a very strong opinion, about what the ratio should be. This profoundly influences your state of mind.
When you feel it making good progress, you feel great, motivated, eager.
When this part brain feels that you’re not making enough progress towards your goal, relative to the effort that you’re investing, it grows frustrated, which motivates you to increase your effort to make more progress toward the goal.
If you’re still are not making enough progress to satisfy the little part of your brain, she gets angry and enraged.
If you continue to fall short -at a certain point, the monitor gives up and pushes you off an emotional cliff and into a pit of despair.
It tells itself that the goal is not attainable.
You enter a hopeless pit of despair.
How you feel about your sexuality is a major influence on your sexual well-being.
This monitor is the key to shaping how you feel about your sexuality from frustrated to helpless to celebrating it.
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