If your child is not yet ready to share what’s happening, you may offer your love and presence and you must be willing to wait you can say,
“It’s OK. You don’t have to speak about it now. I’m ready to listen whenever you want to share. I know that you suffer and can’t tell me today, but you may feel like telling me later. I care about you very much we will sit together and help you suffer less. My dear I’m ready to listen to you, I have all the time in the world to listen. Please breathe first, then calmly tell me everything.”
We have the capacity to express ourselves lovingly.
All of us can do this with practice.
It is important that you help your child express themselves with peaceful language, because if your child cannot speak peacefully with you, they will not be able to do so with others.
The first step is to understand the situation and find its roots, then listen to them.
Can you try this with others in your life?