There is sadness in realizing that there is more to life. Relief, too
“…disappointed…because most of us are like owners of a precious Stradivarius violin that we have never learned to play.” Jolan Chang, The Tao of the Loving Couple
“The individual is flooded by light of supernatural beauty and experiences a state of divine epiphany. He or she has a deep sense of emotional, intellectual and spiritual liberation and gains access to breathtaking realms of cosmic inspiration and insight.”
Stanislav Grof, Beyond the Brain
Exercise: Talk about these with your partner. What are you really looking for in this process? Are you both settling or trying to get the other to read your mind? Ask for what you want. Let them know your preference and how to get there. This is one tried and true way to reach the pinnacle. What is the downside of getting closer in the ways described above?
EXERCISE: Imagine being fluent in this language and having the experiences that we described. Would that be better than just having sex? Imagine it being that wonderfully fulfilling and being able to talk about it and feeling the connection that deeply. Wouldn’t that be something worth your time? What is more important than what we are talking about? How do you want to use your time on this planet?