Do you label your kids?
This one is the artist that one's the scientist.
Next time, remember that you're not helping them, even though you may be praising them. Remember our study where praising kids ability lowered their IQ scores?
Find a growth mindset way to compliment them.
Also, please stop harping so much on innate physical talent.
Carol Dweck in her book on Growth Mindset writes about Tiger Woods and making practice fun -
"I love working on shots -proving to myself that I can hit a certain shot on command" he also thinks of a rival out there someday somewhere who will challenge him.
“If you see yourself as a finished product you have to protect yourself and blame and judge -you do everything except take charge.”
“Other sports you always assumed you're bad at? We'll maybe you are, but then again maybe you aren't. It's not something you can know until you have put in a lot of effort. Some of the world's best athletes did not start out being that good. If you have a passion for a sport, put in the effort and see. Is there a sport they can easily compete until they hit a wall? Try on the growth mindset and go for it again. “