If you are looking at being happy, as in the transitory feeling, then you will be happy and then unhappy and then a whole bunch more feelings and then happy again. If you are asking how to have a meaningful, deep, fulfilling relationship, I can help get you started here.
First of all, like anything worth it, there is hard work. How hard? You've heard of the Olympics, right? Yeah, that hard. No joke. Yeah, even on days you don't feel like it. Yeah, even when things don't seem fair. It is work and yet, it is worth it. I don't see a whole bunch of hermit houses going up around town. People seem to still want to work it out even though it is a lot of work. The hardest work is being nice, kind, compassionate when you would rather share y
Second, I recently finished reading The Power and the Pain by Andrew Holecek and he described it beautifully "It does not matter what happens in the outside world if your mind is free and your heart is open on the inside. You may not control the world, but you control the way you react to the world." Your relationship does not make you happy or make you sad. You yourself control the way you react to the world. If you choose to be happy, you will be happy in your relationship. If you choose to be miserable, you will be miserable. By the way, the same is true for your job.
Third, your relationship is like life. It is not all about you. If you make it about you maximizing your happiness, watch how miserable you become. If you make it about the relationship, being of service to the other person and finding joy in their happiness, it is much more likely to be happy.
First of all, like anything worth it, there is hard work. How hard? You've heard of the Olympics, right? Yeah, that hard. No joke. Yeah, even on days you don't feel like it. Yeah, even when things don't seem fair. It is work and yet, it is worth it. I don't see a whole bunch of hermit houses going up around town. People seem to still want to work it out even though it is a lot of work. The hardest work is being nice, kind, compassionate when you would rather share y
Second, I recently finished reading The Power and the Pain by Andrew Holecek and he described it beautifully "It does not matter what happens in the outside world if your mind is free and your heart is open on the inside. You may not control the world, but you control the way you react to the world." Your relationship does not make you happy or make you sad. You yourself control the way you react to the world. If you choose to be happy, you will be happy in your relationship. If you choose to be miserable, you will be miserable. By the way, the same is true for your job.
Third, your relationship is like life. It is not all about you. If you make it about you maximizing your happiness, watch how miserable you become. If you make it about the relationship, being of service to the other person and finding joy in their happiness, it is much more likely to be happy.
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