First, say to yourself,
“Please, do not think that because you are suffering you can speak harshly, retaliate, or punish others. You can still help others as you embrace the suffering inside you.”
Breathe in and confirm your trust in your awakened nature, your capacity for calm and compassion.
When we generate peace, love, kindness, and understanding in ourselves -we’re generating the energy of God within us.
It doesn’t matter what you are planning on saying to your partner, this approach will help you reach the better version of you, first.
As Adapted from Thich Nhat Hanh by Don Boice