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How Do You Fill Yourself?

5/27/2020

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​How Do You Fill Yourself?
 
What really fills you? When you chase after things, do you feel fulfilled/satisfied? Does it give your life meaning? Maybe you are searching in the wrong places for fulfillment. I don’t mean settling, but really feel satisfied. What is the place of love in your life?
 
That feeling like you want more or you’re still longing or hungry, that is what tells you that you should keep seeking. Here are some ideas for you to reach the goal.
 
“The challenge for women is that the divine does not mean anything to you unless you feel it in your body. She will try to fill herself with emotion, flavors, texture, experiences if she does not feel love. She wants to feel divine forces passionately enter her heart and ripple through her body like waves of intense love more pleasurable than any orgasm she has ever had. She’s not attracted to the freedom beyond experience like a man is.
 
“Relational ecstasy is the genius of the feminine. Relational blessing is the domain of the feminine divine. The joy of family, the colorful web of life on earth, the circle of friends and community the feminine divine is more strongly expressed through the body in relationship. She may settle for sights and sounds of a walk by the lake rather than receiving the ravishing that forces a divine energy deep into her body.
 
“She devotes her time to community and friends rather than swooning in the divine love that swells all bodies.
 
“Women need dance, massage, and yoga to start this process finding the divine- start with finding their body, feeling their breath, freeing their emotions, and allowing themselves to be wracked with unbearable pleasure.
 
“Sex is often the place you most desire and resist the infiltration of divine love.
 
“One of the basic lessons of spiritual growth occurs when you realize you will never be fulfilled for very long or very deeply by anything in life. Devote your life -devote your relationship to realizing the truth of this and every moment is spacious, full, aware, and luminous, regardless of the love you feel you’re getting or not. Even if you’re not being treated like you wish you were, you can do love and give love because you are love.” Deida
 
EXERCISE: “Make love by breathing love. Make love through your every action. Through each word. Through your tears and smiles.
 
“Notice what is always true. Rest in love; that is always available to you. To expect life to fulfill you is foolish.
 
“To be strong as a man is to give love even when you feel hurt -not because you wanna look good, not because you feel that you were growing if you do so, but because not to love is more painful...
 
“The love springs from the depths of your being demands to flow strong regardless of how much you or your woman would rather slump and take a break.” Deida
 
EX: How have you tried to escape yourself?
At a certain point, we run out of commonalities. The easy topics that evoke consensus and reduce anxiety are done; only the hard ones are left. I either confront myself or my partner at this point. Easier to confront partner (proxy fight). We can escape situations we have created. We cannot escape ourselves.

Emotional gridlock is when I am no longer willing to adapt to partner and not willing to confront myself. This will happen in any relationship that has growth. This is not pathological. This is "falling out of love." The above was from Passionate Marriage by Schnarch.
 
EX: Ask yourself why this might be a true statement: Sociologist Julie Brines states that, “sexual frequency was higher in couples where the man spent more time doing such traditionally masculine chores as bill paying and yardwork.”
 
Have you tried doing the exercises on a regular basis (The Art of Sexual Ecstasy by Margo Anand) yet? Are you practicing this particular one 10-20 times before it becomes comfortable during sex? It is time to get the book, and read it, if you have not already done so. Here is an exercise to practice: Squatting Together
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    Don Boice
    Don Boice, LCSW-R, specializes in gender communication with couples in conflict.  

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