Think about how you have applied these concepts in the past few weeks.
Are you happy with your progress?
Do you want it to go faster and not feel any awkwardness or discomfort?
Are you tolerating the discomfort better?
Is there conflict that you need to address that you have been avoiding?
Are you someone who avoids the necessary conflict?
Do you go headfirst into conflict?
Are you direct and use tact?
Are you someone who waits for others to bring it up?
We have assorted styles as countries, couples, families and individuals. Get to know yourself and your patterns, your style.
What triggers and wounds need attention right now?
Go ahead and make a list of your triggers.
What triggers your unhealed wounds?
What gets you going into anger and conflict?
What might influence you to be hostile or aggressive?
Can you sit with the triggers and wounds and just feel the feelings?
Just be with the feelings and allow them to be there. Don’t engage or stir them up and don’t avoid them. Feel those emotions and let them just be there. Hold space or witness them without action and you’ll notice they run their course and the next feelings come in…
And that is often how we deal with conflict within.
Just be. Let it be and let it go. Breathe into the discomfort without stirring it up and without avoiding the emotions. There you go.
As your inner conflict is reduced, watch how hard it is for others to pick a fight with you.
You are just not interested.
Hmmm, so people who get into conflict a lot might need help with their inner conflict. Exactly
Sit with that concept.
Sit in silence and let your mind contemplate that concept.
The problem they have with you is really the problem they have with themselves. Yes. Now, they might antagonize you and draw you in with words or actions. They might call you hurtful names or do things that hurt you, but the root is that they are hurting and do not know how to help themselves out of the pain.
So, it is not personal. It is their issue, not yours.
You are making it about yourself - is a mistake.
Unless the conflict is them telling you that they feel a certain way about something you said or did, and you know you did it.
They might be confronting you about something you need to change. Right?
But now it is a discussion instead of a fight because you have done the work necessary to not be triggered and not overreact.
When you find yourself having strong reactions, strong emotions, that is telling you where you need more healing, that’s all.
Sit with that concept and think about how to apply this to your life.
Are you happy with your progress?
Do you want it to go faster and not feel any awkwardness or discomfort?
Are you tolerating the discomfort better?
Is there conflict that you need to address that you have been avoiding?
Are you someone who avoids the necessary conflict?
Do you go headfirst into conflict?
Are you direct and use tact?
Are you someone who waits for others to bring it up?
We have assorted styles as countries, couples, families and individuals. Get to know yourself and your patterns, your style.
What triggers and wounds need attention right now?
Go ahead and make a list of your triggers.
What triggers your unhealed wounds?
What gets you going into anger and conflict?
What might influence you to be hostile or aggressive?
Can you sit with the triggers and wounds and just feel the feelings?
Just be with the feelings and allow them to be there. Don’t engage or stir them up and don’t avoid them. Feel those emotions and let them just be there. Hold space or witness them without action and you’ll notice they run their course and the next feelings come in…
And that is often how we deal with conflict within.
Just be. Let it be and let it go. Breathe into the discomfort without stirring it up and without avoiding the emotions. There you go.
As your inner conflict is reduced, watch how hard it is for others to pick a fight with you.
You are just not interested.
Hmmm, so people who get into conflict a lot might need help with their inner conflict. Exactly
Sit with that concept.
Sit in silence and let your mind contemplate that concept.
The problem they have with you is really the problem they have with themselves. Yes. Now, they might antagonize you and draw you in with words or actions. They might call you hurtful names or do things that hurt you, but the root is that they are hurting and do not know how to help themselves out of the pain.
So, it is not personal. It is their issue, not yours.
You are making it about yourself - is a mistake.
Unless the conflict is them telling you that they feel a certain way about something you said or did, and you know you did it.
They might be confronting you about something you need to change. Right?
But now it is a discussion instead of a fight because you have done the work necessary to not be triggered and not overreact.
When you find yourself having strong reactions, strong emotions, that is telling you where you need more healing, that’s all.
Sit with that concept and think about how to apply this to your life.
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