Boice Counseling
  • Home
  • Retreats and Books
    • Books and Audio
    • Helpful Resources
    • Insurance/Costs
  • Services
  • News/Blog
  • Contact Us

I Have Forgotten Who I Am

5/17/2020

0 Comments

 
​You Are Consciousness
 
“I need to find myself,” he said. I jokingly replied that I found him and he is right there. After he threw the pillow at me, he told me that I knew what he meant.
 
“Have you forgotten who you are?” I asked, turning serious. I wanted to listen and really hear what he meant. Did he mean that he had stopped being true to himself in trying to be liked and earn her love? Did he over accommodate her and lose his sense of his own importance and lose touch with what he himself liked? Or had he never really known himself, his nature of mind, his deepest self? Struggling to articulate it for him, I asked him to read, and then reflect on, this passage from David Deida.
 
“Certainly you’re aware of what is always true -you are consciousness radiance itself. Everything that happens takes place in this openness and is the creation of conscious light.
 
“Always practice to remember who you really are even in the most pleasurable circumstances.
 
“Women reveal to man the beauty of existence. Your relationship to feminine attractiveness does not have to stop with the sexual titillation.
 
“The feeling of wanting someone is the feeling of wanting to merge with her, to take her and make her yours, so that for some moments you are absorbed in her beauty and her delicious womanness. What is it that you really want?” Deida
 
What you really want, prefer, like, what makes you tick is a large part of who you are. Tune into that and do things that bring you joy and passion, that ground you. How do you practice this type of thing? Well, there is a book that I recommend to people who want to reach the deeper depths.
 
EXERCISE: Have you tried doing the exercises on a regular basis (The Art of Sexual Ecstasy by Margo Anand) yet? Are you practicing this particular one 10-20 times before it becomes comfortable during sex? It is time to get the book, and read it, if you have not already done so. Here is an exercise for you to practice:
The Heart Salutation 
0 Comments

Your comment will be posted after it is approved.


Leave a Reply.

    Don Boice
    Don Boice, LCSW-R, specializes in gender communication with couples in conflict.  

    _

    Archives

    June 2022
    May 2022
    April 2022
    March 2022
    February 2022
    December 2021
    November 2021
    October 2021
    September 2021
    August 2021
    July 2021
    May 2021
    April 2021
    February 2021
    January 2021
    November 2020
    September 2020
    August 2020
    July 2020
    June 2020
    May 2020
    April 2020
    January 2020
    December 2019
    November 2019
    October 2019
    September 2019
    August 2019
    July 2019
    June 2019
    May 2019
    April 2019
    March 2019
    February 2019
    January 2019
    December 2018
    November 2018
    June 2018
    May 2018
    April 2018
    March 2018
    February 2018
    January 2018
    December 2017
    November 2017
    October 2017
    September 2017
    August 2017
    July 2017
    June 2017
    May 2017
    April 2017
    March 2017
    February 2017
    January 2017
    December 2016
    November 2016
    October 2016
    September 2016
    August 2016
    July 2016
    June 2016
    May 2016
    April 2016
    March 2016
    January 2016
    December 2015
    November 2015
    October 2015
    September 2015
    August 2015
    July 2015
    June 2015
    May 2015
    April 2015
    March 2015
    February 2015
    January 2015
    December 2014
    November 2014
    October 2014
    September 2014
    August 2014
    July 2014
    June 2014
    May 2014
    April 2014
    March 2014
    February 2014
    January 2014
    November 2013
    October 2013
    September 2013
    August 2013
    July 2013
    June 2013
    May 2013
    April 2013
    March 2013
    February 2013
    January 2013
    December 2012
    November 2012
    October 2012
    September 2012
    August 2012
    July 2012
    June 2012
    May 2012
    April 2012
    March 2012
    February 2012
    January 2012

    Categories

    All
    Building Relationships Improving Communication
    Communication
    Counseling
    Counselor
    Couples
    Couples Counseling
    Dating
    Emotional Intelligence
    Gender
    Gender Communication
    Goleman
    Jealousy
    Love
    Marital Counseling
    Relationships
    Resolutions
    Romance
    Soft Skills
    Time Magazine
    Training
    Valentine's Day

    RSS Feed

Powered by Create your own unique website with customizable templates.