Going back to last week's post- Lack of disclosure is one thing, then there is an affair. “Affair” is when you build a wall around the new relationship to keep it safe from the primary partner. This includes the emotional affair as well as a physical affair.
The potential cheater begins to distrust the partner. You read that right.
The more distance from your mate, the less you trust them, even though you are the one cheating. Makes sense doesn’t it? You are pushing them away, not able to tune into them and we tend to assume that other people are doing what we are doing and thinking what we are thinking.
Gottman writes, “if you think your partner would be uncomfortable watching your interactions with this person, or be upset by the confidences you have shared, the closeness is dangerous.”
A good friend told me he was taught to avoid situations that could even lead to this, even if they ap
The potential cheater begins to distrust the partner. You read that right.
The more distance from your mate, the less you trust them, even though you are the one cheating. Makes sense doesn’t it? You are pushing them away, not able to tune into them and we tend to assume that other people are doing what we are doing and thinking what we are thinking.
Gottman writes, “if you think your partner would be uncomfortable watching your interactions with this person, or be upset by the confidences you have shared, the closeness is dangerous.”
A good friend told me he was taught to avoid situations that could even lead to this, even if they ap
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