Don’t force things, allow them to take their course. Stop fighting what is and use the energy of allowing and watch how your own equanimity is affected. Don't be overly attached to the results.
“If you fight back (with your partner) at the time when the person is irrational and caught up in ego energy, it is more difficult to restore harmony. If there’s understanding- for example silence, giving space to the other person and you allow the energy to flow, instead of pushing, accusing recriminating-During times of anger, the reconciliation process is easier.” Ashby
As Americans, we tend to force things and push through, instead of allowing them to be what they are. Sometimes no action is the best option.
“The deeper aspiration of every human being is to discover inner peace and contentment -this is why people engage in relationships, pursue careers etc.” Ashby
What are you doing today that helps you with inner peace and contentment? Are you focusing on the external or the internal conflicts?