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Let It Flow

8/24/2022

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​Be curious about life. How does that work? How do I do this? Is this the only way to do that? Could I do it differently and get a better result? Ooh, when I did it differently, I liked it better. I like how that feels. Now add a purpose. Doesn’t have to be earth shattering…
 
Skateboarders do that. They see something on TV or YouTube etc and they try to mimic it. They find a different way to do it. Same for other sports, basketball moves, soccer feints etc…
 
Ive seen kids practice for hours trying to get better (mastery and purpose). They love doing it and then wonder what else they are capable of doing (curiosity). Their passion is obvious as they spend free time doing this. They love the hard work, the challenge that comes with it. They appreciate the flow, getting in the zone and focusing on the present moment.
 
Imagine that person doing music or other sports or learning a subject in school that tangentially relates to their curiosity. They see how it dovetails. If this is possible, then what if I could do…. They might take a break from the physicality of it and let their brains loose. They are spending their own time, self-directed doing what they enjoy (autonomy mixed in with passion) and learning how things work (mastery).
 
Imagine this applied to a career goal or something that makes the world a better place. I would like to help end homelessness. With that big purpose in mind, what smaller parts would I need to address? Lets look at what steps you need to get there. Keep breaking them down and then the goal or purpose becomes more doable.
 
Start doing what is on the list, every day and watch how you get closer and closer to the goal. Every day you get closer and are applying passion, mastery, curiosity and autonomy. You enter flow and your brain works even better, while you are enjoying feeling good and the life satisfaction of pursuing your purpose.
 
Each day brings you closer to your goal and you can feel the momentum shift. What is one activity I could do today that would make a difference? What if I could do several every single day and it would get me even closer, but faster?
 
All these concepts are borrowed from Steven Kotler- Superman and the Art of Impossible, who is applying the flow research of czitenmihalyi.  
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    Don Boice, LCSW-R, specializes in gender communication with couples in conflict.  

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