“Okay. Want to come in for a nightcap?”
“I’d love to. ..Shoot, up to that point I was doing really well!”
From “Parks and Recreation”
Folks, we simply are not flirting well and giving clear signals of interest. Our inner conflict about being vulnerable and asking, not to mention receiving, gets in our way. Let’s be playful and fun with one another, not taking ourselves so doggone seriously!
I also suggest you not “false flirt.” Imagine someone telling you that you are the most romantic man ever, that you took their breath away, they love your smile and your eyes and how you kissed, had you stay overnight (no sex, but good cuddling) and three days later said they want to be friends because the chemistry just isn’t right. I’ve heard this exact story a few times recently.
If you know the chemistry is suspect, perhaps having the guy stay overnight is misleading and I would suggest you have a conversation about it and be gut level honest.