Come as You Are Workbook by Nagoski, PhD
Sometimes what is hitting the brakes is trauma from the past. Even after the main therapy is completed, there could be residual trauma and you may stumble over some triggers.
There are three broad approaches to coping with the trauma that is left over residual trauma:
Cognitive, thought-based approach of cognitive behavioral therapy or dialectical behavioral therapy, which are considered top down.
Bottom up is a body-based approach like sensory motor psycho therapy, a somatic approach.
Mindfulness based approach is considered sideways. It creates a non-reactive awareness of your internal experience, whether thoughts, emotions, or physical sensations.
You’re getting out of your body’s way and witnessing it as it does what it does intuitively, which is to heal.
Mindfulness is the practice of nonjudgmental, present-centered awareness, neutrally noticing what’s happening in the here and now. By the way, neutrally noticing what is happening is a major breakthrough or can lead to major breakthroughs.
It is about both what you pay attention to the present moment, and how you pay attention to it with curiosity, openness and acceptance.
*Nonjudgment is the active ingredient in mindfulness. If you want better physical intimacy, invest time in learning how to do mindfulness and nonjudgment!
It is the non-judgment of whatever you’re aware of, not just sitting still, not just noticing your breath.
Not just being aware of your senses.
Consider buying the book, “Better Sex Through Mindfulness” by Lori Brotto.
Come as You Are Workbook by Nagoski, PhD
Sometimes what is hitting the brakes is trauma from the past. Even after the main therapy is completed, there could be residual trauma and you may stumble over some triggers.
There are three broad approaches to coping with the trauma that is left over residual trauma:
Cognitive, thought-based approach of cognitive behavioral therapy or dialectical behavioral therapy, which are considered top down.
Bottom up is a body-based approach like sensory motor psycho therapy, a somatic approach.
Mindfulness based approach is considered sideways. It creates a non-reactive awareness of your internal experience, whether thoughts, emotions, or physical sensations.
You’re getting out of your body’s way and witnessing it as it does what it does intuitively, which is to heal.
Mindfulness is the practice of nonjudgmental, present-centered awareness, neutrally noticing what’s happening in the here and now. By the way, neutrally noticing what is happening is a major breakthrough or can lead to major breakthroughs.
It is about both what you pay attention to the present moment, and how you pay attention to it with curiosity, openness and acceptance.
*Nonjudgment is the active ingredient in mindfulness. If you want better physical intimacy, invest time in learning how to do mindfulness and nonjudgment!
It is the non-judgment of whatever you’re aware of, not just sitting still, not just noticing your breath.
Not just being aware of your senses.
Consider buying the book, “Better Sex Through Mindfulness” by Lori Brotto.
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