Thank you for another friendly year. You are a good person and I respect you as the mother of my children.
As far as our marriage goes, this was a year I prefer to forget. You see, I want an active spouse, not just someone to mother my children. I would like an active relationship with some romance, someone who is invested in us. While I am grateful that you have invested so much in the children, I often feel like an outsider.
There are days at a time that when I try to emotionally connect with you, you dismiss me. You don't make time for us even when I do all the things you ask me to do.
It feels like you just don’t want to connect. I am thinking that with enough repetitions of this, I won’t want to be close to you either. You see, it hurts to be rejected repeatedly, even if I am a guy and we are supposed to be used to it.
This marriage is probably not going to work unless you engage in it and yet I am afraid to say it again because whenever I mention something I would like or prefer you get so doggone defensive. Walking on eggshells is not good for a marriage.
Again, I have been shot down 90% of the times that I try to get close to you emotionally (I won’t even begin to talk about the physical aspect of our relationship) so I am not sure it is going to work.
I am at the point of asking “Why do people get married?”
By the way, if this sounds like your relationship, give me a call. There are definitely ways we can improve