Transcend yourself, fly, go beyond, leave yourself behind, unify, merge, ecstasy, alive, filled up, at home, absorbed, flow, awe, intense experience- these awaken your energy
From the Art of Sexual Ecstasy By M. Anand
“Because we know such moments are possible, each time we enter into lovemaking, we secretly hope that this time we will enjoy them again. We hold the vision of a deeply fulfilling and joyful embrace, in which the vibrant pleasure of the body encompasses the delight of the heart, the meeting of minds, and the mutual recognition of kindred spirits.”
“I have seen relationships between couples who had become bored-not only with sex, but with each other- suddenly blossom into entirely new love affairs, with open, heart-to-heart communication; renewed sexual intimacy; and an underlying spiritual connection that gave their lives together new meaning and fulfillment.”
EXERICSE: Read that again- The peak experiences- is that what you are looking for? Isn’t that why we go into relationships in the first place?
How close are you feeling in your relationship?
Do you experience the mutual recognition of kindred spirits?
Her book is filled with exercises to get there. My suggestion is that you read her book and take what you need from it. I will not repeat all her exercises here, but there are resources that really help the reader. Not all exercises are for everyone, you get to pick and choose.
EXERCISE: Have you had a melting hug? Hug until both of you sigh. This is not the typical hug. Go ahead and hug until you melt into your partner.
Margot Anand The Art of Sexual Ecstasy
Exercise: Ocean Breath- Here’s another exercise to do when you’re trying to transition from the workday to the bedroom:
Relax your jaw and allow it to naturally drop open. Breathe in and out through your open mouth. (This alone can cause you to feel super sexy.) As you breathe, allow your chest to expand with your inhalations and contract with your exhalations, in a similar fashion to the Cat Cow Pose in yoga.
Picture your breath traveling down the front of your body on the way in and up your back on the way out, forming a cyclical wave of energy. Continue allowing your chest to open and close with your breath. Ride that wave.
If you’re really want to awaken your sexual desire, do this kneeling with knees apart and a pillow under your pelvis.
Begin gently contracting the pelvic floor muscles on the exhale. This will again direct blood flow to your sex organs.
Enjoy and explore the sensations. As you ride the wave and undulate your body, grind the pillow. Keep breathing through your open mouth. If you want to take this even further, read our article on Solo Spiritual Sex.
Done regularly, these exercises can calm you, improve focus, lower blood pressure, and put you in better touch with your sexual energy. Enjoy your practice.