“Well, otherwise, you not only don’t solve the actual problem, you’re signaling not listening, signaling not valuing working with me and you’re imposing your solution on me- from my perspective. That signals that you want the problem to go away, not that you want me to be comforted. Is that your intent?”
“Oftentimes your solution is distance and separation from you. Your first option is to say we should spend time apart. Is that what you need from me when you’re having a rough time? What inspires you to consistently offer that option first?”
Do you get the sense that this conversation is going to end well?