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Predict and Plan

3/10/2022

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​You can predict what will get in your way, right? Come up with a plan for dealing with it. If you cannot control it, come up with a plan for letting it go. That is how you prepare to win, if you value winning.
 
Save your mental energy by making these things habit and they go on auto pilot. That means you have to practice them until they become habit, which usually takes awhile. Start practicing now. Challenge your limiting beliefs now and when they come up during the event, game or race, you know how to deal.
 
 
Can you see how proper practice creates champions? Same thing for work, school, relationships, not just sports.
 
The elite athletes are preparing their minds for this all year round.
 
They practice hard and they push themselves to get used to having discomfort.
 
They know when to stop and they listen to their bodies to avoid injuring themselves.
 
 
Here are ideas of how they challenge their mischievous brain:
They ask -is this a catastrophe or inconvenience? 
How likely is this to happen?
How can I better handle this?
What fear is this bringing up and how can I directly face that specific fear?
What would it take to be brave in the face of this fear?
 
Fear holds us back. It pretends that the limits are lower than they really are.
 
Focus on bravery, confidence, self-love and it influences your feelings.
 
Elite athletes also show themselves a lot of love, which helps them feel good.
That is definitely in your control and not easy to do.
 
Focus on what is in your control if you want to feel more confident.
 
Face your fears directly.
What are you most afraid of in the sport and then this event in this game or race? (Ask the same for school, work, relationships)
 
How is fear holding you back from reaching your potential? 
 
How can you begin to replace your fear with courage?
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Your brain tries to trick you sometimes.
 
Challenge those thoughts:
 
For example, your brain might tell you, “I can’t do this. I’m too far behind. “
Can you challenge your brain by saying, “I got this. I’m going to focus on the things in my control and do my best.”
 
What about when your brain is mischievous and tells you, “I can’t handle it. It is too much.”
Try this line and see if it does the trick. If not, keep challenging it. Do not let that type of message from your brain go without a challenge. “Pain and discomfort are part of life. This is inconvenient and will go away. This is not the type of pain that means stop.”
 
If you were working with a sports psychologist, they might ask you to talk to your unconscious mind and tell it, “Show me all the times I was successful.”
 
Your unconscious mind will go through every memory you have that you do not remember (it is the unconscious) and show you an image or tell you a phrase of that memory.
 
You will have plenty of good feelings from looking at all your successes.
 
To add to the experience, they might tell you to anchor those good feelings.
 
Anchor them to your pinky finger- pinch your pinky finger every time you have a good memory about your successes.
 
During the game or event, if you were to then touch your pinky, you release good feelings immediately. It is unconscious, so it happens fast.
 
Your future you appreciates you putting in the work now, even if you don’t go professional in your sport.
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    Don Boice, LCSW-R, specializes in gender communication with couples in conflict.  

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