Why not spend some time preparing yourself and your partner to celebrate it?
I offer two days to prepare. Choose one or the other and watch how much better it goes for you. In small groups, we talk about basic relationship things (check the tab "Retreats and Books" on my website for specifics) and I ask you to plan a date with your partner, asking each other, working together as a team, to get your needs met.
January 29 will be a six hour discussion and planning session and February 12 is 3 hours. No walk in because space is limiited.
If you cannot attend the dates I offer, email me for the information that we are going to cover and you can still benefit from it. My email is firstname.lastname@example.org.