Imagine making what looks like a reasonable decision. Ask yourself, “what if?”
“What could go wrong?”
On the face of it, if all goes right... you’re perfectly okay. That’s fine but most people are not trained to anticipate the “what if?”.
I’ve heard people walk away from retirement or spousal support or the house. You’re allowed to make that decision. Don’t do it without thinking it through.
“I’ll be okay... “
What if you get hurt, maybe even a disability- car accident, heart attack, death of spouse, or what if your spouse gets laid off?- essentially, you walk through the process to make sure everyone is protected. We can’t anticipate all the “what if” scenarios; no one can. Looking at it from the outside, we could add yet another protection.
As a mediator, I recommend experts take a look at your final decisions before anything is signed.
Have a financial expert make sure your financial/ tax interests are protected. It’s a new set of eyes and a different perspective and ultimately you still get to make the decision. You have veto power and can now make a more informed decision.
A lawyer makes sure that legally you are covered, legal loopholes are closed.
And a counselor helps you emotionally walk through the emotion draining process of divorce while making sound decisions, not emotionally reactive decisions. Your counselor helps you get the courage to keep your heart open and face fears so they don’t have power over you.
My recommendation is to have as a mediator, someone who understands emotions and has empathy. They guide the entire process with these other professionals consulting, as needed.