Someone else says they cannot wait to meet you, after two exchanges, then stop writing back.
Someone else says that you did not act fast enough. As if they are entitled to your response and that you must go out with them. My perspective is that at this stage, people are still seeing if they are compatible. If they have not requested to call or meet in person, there is a reason. Go back to the “hell yeah” philosophy. Unless the person can emphatically say “hell, yeah” to wanting to go on a date, do you really want to date the person?
Imagine you trade a few emails and ask to meet in person. They say they’d love to meet. They can’t meet today or tomorrow, or all next week for whatever reason.
They also can’t talk and the communication is at a minimum via text/email etc. Is it over at this point? It was not a big investment of time. They were kinda interested, but not really if they are not follow through.
My take on this is that if they cannot match you with effort, then chances are they will not in the future.
If it is a one time thing, that is okay, but we are talking a pattern. Imagine asking someone out four times in a row.
You have never met in person. “If they really liked me, they would keep asking me out,” has been the reply. They don’t know you well enough to know if they like you because you have not met. I think it is unrealistic to ask someone to pursue that strongly at this stage.
I jokingly refer to this part as bare minimum. You want to see what you can get with the bare minimum. That is unlikely a conscious thought, but they are putting in just enough to warrant an email.
At this point, do you continue reaching out to them? Do you have “the talk”? Are they just letting you down gently? or do you take your ball and go play elsewhere? I have heard people refer to this as ghosting. That is not my perspective. If the person wanted to have a relationship, they would have done what is necessary to have a relationship. If they are too busy, simply saying that they are busy and cannot do it right now would suffice.
Most of us have really good intentions. Maybe it just is that the person is too busy. They cannot admit that to themselves and that is okay, but at some level that is their responsibility to know themselves well enough. If your prospective partner cannot see you, then it should probably be a deal breaker, right?
Dating is not a science. If it feels wrong and I override my intuition, bad things usually happen. It might feel great one day and then the lack of contact, the lack of matching makes itself known. They might want to connect and not have the time, or the ability. If they are on the fence, then it is their job to get off the fence.